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Is your CPF enough for retirement? i like one caller said ... since the panel suggests that the onus lies on the cpf holder to manage their finances and be prudence in order to have enough money for retirement then return cpf money to us ... let us manage our own money .... no point to have cpf ... since cpf is not enough for retirement ... lolz anyway, i support cpf scheme which is a national scheme to "force" people to save up but the return generated in cpf is too low to offset the rise of cost of living and not to mention the OA is almost depleted for housing. final vote result

"Don't keep it bottled up inside" is a saying many of us are familiar with. By now, most of us are aware that ignoring your emotions is an unhealthy practice. Yet many of us do it anyway. I don't think I'm particularly stoic, but as I get older, I've realised that I do tend to not express how I'm feeling, and that this practice has led to anxiety. One example of this happened just a few weeks ago. Prior to this year's Motor Show, I had trouble sleeping. I would keep waking up with my mind racing. Worse, I even dreamt about work. As I reflected on what was troubling me, I realised that it wasn't the Motor Show per se. It was me picturing the work that had to be done. Image: charlesdeluvio, Unsplash Small steps In my previous post, I talked about how tidying up my study became much easier after I split the room into three areas to simplify the process. In this case, I was picturing the event, post-event and following week as one enormous task to be taken on all at once. My mind began planning everything from meeting industry friends and acquaintances to cars to check out to the stories I'd have to write. Then I also mentally mapped the social media aspects (and angles). Therein lay the problem: I was looking at it as a single task, when I should have remembered all along that it's really several smaller assignments to be progressively completed. This writer is learning to decompress before the stress gets the better of him. Image: Arny Mogensen, Unsplash Voicing it out Voicing out my feelings is something I'm still working on. This isn't about complaining or giving feedback, because there's plenty of that five days a week in the office. It's about expressing what's swirling around inside when I'm troubled by something. Perhaps, in this aspect, I am stoic. Nobody taught me to bury my emotions, keep silent and soldier on. It's just in my nature. So, during a casual conversation with my better half, I admitted, "I am anxious about the Motor Show, and I keep thinking about the work involved." Right after saying that, I immediately felt the weight being lifted off my shoulders and my mood improving. I began to relax. The relief was as welcome as it was amazing. Another realisation During my nine years at my previous company, I was still in the same role and doing mostly the same things, but the difference was the culture. My boss then, as kind-hearted as he is, is a perfectionist. He is also a man of few words. If you think that sounds toxic, I assure you that it isn't. People have their own ways of doing things. Not everyone can be as communicative as you expect. Some might even opine that I shouldn't expect anything more than my salary for doing my job. Anyway, I reflected on all this and realised that stress aside, I also had to deal - or not deal with - the unknown: Was I doing well or was I terrible? Or am I doing all right since I'm no longer being lectured? This uncertainty led to a lack of confidence. During the annual appraisal period would my boss tell me, "You know you won't remain a writer forever, right?" Without any words of encouragement or pats on the back it could have easily meant, "You won't be here much longer." So, I figured, keep quiet and keep working. Picturing the finish line is a great way to stay focussed on your goals. Image: Al Elmes, Unsplash Self-learning It was another colleague who opened my eyes when he told me that my boss actually has a lot of confidence in me. I asked him for proof. He highlighted that every month, on FTP Day, my editor tells me to "see it through" and leaves the office mid-afternoon. In magazine publishing, FTP or 'files to printer' date, is the deadline for submitting the last few outstanding files. Failure to do so means your issue's delivery date is delayed. Being tasked to see it through is a huge responsibility. And if there were any mistakes, my boss would have to answer for them. But back then, I was too busy, too stressed, and too immature to appreciate what it meant. That was over a decade ago and I'm only coming to terms with all this now. Is it age? Maybe it's also perspective, because looking back is when you see how far you've come. Anyway, the good news is that as these old feelings resurface, I learn something new from them. Voicing out my inner troubles doesn't mean complaining at every turn. It means acknowledging that something is bothering me and that I need to talk about it instead of bottling it up inside. I still do what's needed to get the job done. The difference is that today, when I feel tense or overwhelmed, I know to press the 'Pause' button, breathe, talk to someone and revisit my plan of attack. Main image: Drew Taylor, Unsplash

For the oldies in this forum to walk down the memory lane.....where roller disco is the in thing......hehe http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNVxv1iH71o http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mERoSi_2Jg

A 40-year-old man and eight other gang members attacked two men having dinner with their family members at a hawker centre last May for "talking too loudly". Soh Ying Kuan and his accomplices rained punches and kicks and even used empty beer bottles to hit the victims' heads and backs while shouting their gang's slogan. Although the injuries suffered by the two men were not serious, this did not save Soh from a long spell behind bars. In passing sentence, District Judge Low Wee Ping said that while the usual penalty for gang-related rioting with no grievous hurt to victims was two-and-a-half years' jail and six strokes of the cane, he was sentencing Soh to four years in jail and six strokes of the cane because of "the manner (Soh) had executed the violence". The judge pointed out that the victims were "innocent members of the public having dinner" and that the assault had left their family members "heavily traumatised". Source: http://www.straitstimes.com/breaking-news/singapore/story/gangster-jailed-and-caned-assault-innocent-men-20140204

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Sorry double post....screw you internet!!! Admin, please delete. thank you

This was aired yesterday. Drama when the filipino lady cried...... my take is no. this would lead to more entrants of bogus marriages and social issues. I say ship them back to where they came from. your views?

Little Johnny saw his daddy's car pass by the school playground and drove into the woods, he feel curious and ran after his daddy car to find him, he saw daddy with Aunt Jane in a passionate embrace. Little Johnny found this so exciting that he could hardly contain himself , he quickly rush home to tell his Mother. Mummy, just now...I was at the playground and I saw daddy's car drove into the woods with Aunt Jane. I went there to look for them, and I saw daddy was giving Aunt Jane a big kiss, then he helped her take off her red skirt, then Aunt Jane helped daddy to take off his black pants, then Aunt Jane..... At this point, little johnny mother was busy cooking and said, good boy Johnny, this is such an interesting story, can you save the rest of your story for our dinner time, let us see what funny look on daddy's face when you tell all of us tonight. At the dinner table that evening, Mummy whisper into little Johnny ear and reminds him to repeat his story in the afternoon, little Johnny excitedly started his story. Hello, every one, I would like to tell you a story, I was at the playground and I saw daddy's car drove into the woods with Aunt Jane. I went there to look for them, and I saw daddy was giving Aunt Jane a big kiss, then he helped her take off her red skirt, then Aunt Jane helped daddy to take off his black pants, then Aunt Jane

..18 Chinese nationals jailed over fake degrees By Faris Mokhtar | Yahoo! Newsroom

The kiasu and kiasi of being Singaporean According to former Singapore Miss World Ris Low, Singaporeans are always hustling and bustling. Life is very stressful, very

Man sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.

I swear I cringe damn hard and nearly get into an accident whenever I hear this advert on the radio...

Guys... Just wondering what you guys think about all this talk about online communication being no as good as offline. Or do you guys prefer through MSN because no need to see the other person's face? Haha OR do you think that Skype with webcam is as good as Face-to-Face? Lol.

Forget about cars and coe... We are all going to die this coming 2012. I am sure everyone has read the news already right? we have to plan how are we going to survive an alien attack on our planet. It may very well be the end of mankind.

Anyway, none of my business..... By the way, Holiday coming [bounce2] TAKE A BREAK

i'm talking about AutoBacs... either the marketing team is hopeless or its just some ploy to get ppl to talk about it... well since it has got me to post here... i guess its working... hahaha...

tonight who watching? like how the opposition trying to prepare the ground. already sda and rp want to form alliance but it failed cos kenneth jayaratnam's proposal to essentially take over sda and replace chiam was rejected by sda. rp is young and untested, only the jbj brand name to keep it going. sda is tested but declining as chiam lao liao. wp is the only one slow and steady. sdp, that one no need say no hope and i dont want to see them in parliament.

boring, or are we watching the show at its deathbed?

Finally, a host that is not afraid of shooting the facts & at the guests. Really love the face expression when he corners the guests, Sembawang GRC MP & Propnex CEO,......Priceless. MPs really suck at their job, dun even knw wat he is talkin abt. Propnex CEO is really giving only "money face" answers. Bt I m really skeptical that this show will last......This boy's is really rockin the guests hard. Catch it while its still hot.

Yo Bro, I have this little problem here. I bought my girlfriend quite a few soft toy (Tigger) for her during our relationship for the past 1 yr or so. There was this particular one she likes a lot because I get it out from those catcher machine at Iluma. She will always bring this soft toy out and talk to it and use it to talk to me inside the car or other places. Initially I thought it was ok but as time goes by, it sort of getting serious because she is doing it regularly. She would get angry whenever I ignore her over the soft toy and stuff... Any advice on this? It is common among girlfriends of your bro here?

Lim Swee Say, Minister in Prime Minister

Here's another quote from Ferrari President Montezemolo taken from http://en.f1-live.com/f1/en/headlines/news...023092215.shtml "The real problem is with the new circuits that are there just for show. I think Monaco is enough," he said. Hmm.. wonder which F1 circuit he's referring to?

http://www.asiaone.com/News/The%2BNew%2BPa...0530-67865.html Maybe the other guy was trying to catch some sleep and got woken up by the China FT.

Hey bros, did you all tune in to 93.8 live? The topic was drifting and expert drifter chromas was on air to share his knowledge. 14 march 08 oh btw, HAPPY White Day!!!!

they keep talking abt it... i dun see any action taken as yet..... or are they really out of idea wat to do...... http://sg.news.yahoo.com/cna/20080101/tap-...83-231650b.html i guess its another 5 year of empty promises..... where are those promises before the elections.....