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Stop Phubbing – A Singapore Survey Finds That It’s Hurting Relationships More Than You Think http://www.shape.com.sg/lifestyle/stop-phubbing-singapore-survey-finds-hurting-relationships-think/ Looking at your phone while you’re out with someone? A survey by Singapore Polytechnic students finds phubbing to be quite damaging to relationships. Phub, what? In case you haven’t heard, phubbing is the act of snubbing someone in favour of your mobile phone – and it is becoming increasingly common. The term phubbing (pronounced far-bing) was coined in 2012 as part of a campaign by Macquarie Dictionary, and has been widely used since then, thanks to the growing smartphone usage. Remember when your friend kept looking at her phone while you were out shopping with her? Or when she couldn’t stop checking for messages over dinner? Whether or not phubbing is justified – perhaps you have an urgent message to reply to, or you’re trying to avoid an awkward conversation – it is considered rude most of the time. A recent large-scale survey by Singapore Polytechnic students found that a majority of young adults in Singapore aged 15 to 35 perceive phubbing to be harmful to relationships with their partner, friends and family. The effect seems to be the greatest for romantic relationships. Of the 785 interviewed, 61.7 per cent felt that phubbing deteriorates the quality of conversation, while 58.2 per cent believed phubbing negatively affects their relationship with their partner. And here’s the interesting part: Men are more particular about phubbing than women are. According to the survey, 62.8 per cent of males agreed that phubbing worsens their relationship with their partner, compared to 54.5 per cent of females. So the next time you’re out with your man (or anyone else you value), it’s best to leave your phone in the bag – unless you have established a mutual phubbing ‘protocol’, like if everyone uses their phones at a specified time, or if you know for sure that they wouldn’t hold it against you. After all, no one likes to be phubbed. It’s the new-age way of ostracising.

In particular, she took issue with a booklet distributed during the workshop, which she said ”seemed to emphasise and enforce traditional gender roles in a relationship”. Dr Hon did not comment on the contents of the booklet in his letter, saying only that it was a “source of unhappiness”. http://www.todayonline.com/singapore/hwa-chong-design-its-own-workshops-future SINGAPORE — Following feedback from a student that a workshop on managing relationships was sexist in content, Hwa Chong Institution (HCI) said it plans to design its own workshops in the future. In a letter to students and teachers yesterday — a copy of which was seen by TODAY — HCI principal Hon Chiew Weng said the school had concluded its internal investigation into the complaint and found that the facilitators of the workshop in question were ineffective in addressing the participants’ concerns. Earlier this week, HCI student Agatha Tan set off a wave of controversy with a Facebook post on her concerns about the workshop conducted by Focus on the Family Singapore, a vendor appointed by the Ministry for Social and Family Development (MSF). In particular, she took issue with a booklet distributed during the workshop, which she said ”seemed to emphasise and enforce traditional gender roles in a relationship”. Dr Hon did not comment on the contents of the booklet in his letter, saying only that it was a “source of unhappiness”. He pointed out that the feedback from the students was that one facilitator in particular was unable to address their concerns “satisfactorily” when several of them objected to viewpoints that had been raised during a discussion. The workshop, one of several on managing relationships, was held for the HCI students last week. Students who attended a similar workshop held in another venue were happy and the facilitators were professional and qualified their claims, added Dr Hon. These facilitators recognised that the views put forth in class were generalisations that do not apply to everyone and when referring to controversial viewpoints, they were open to alternative explanations and perspectives, he added. He added that the school had previously used the vendor’s services and the students’ feedback had been positive.