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http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html REGRETS OF THE DYING For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it. 2. I wish I didn't work so hard. This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle. 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Based on this article, Bronnie has now released a full length book titled The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing. It is a memoir of her own life and how it was transformed through the regrets of the dying people she cared for. This inspiring book is available internationally through Hay House. Sometimes, I do feel my life is slipping me by and I just wanna quit my job and live

Switched from my Mk-2 Punto into a Bravo T-Jet. Was no sure at first, given so many choices in the price range. Tried the new Mitsu Lancer EX - didnt't make the cut. IMHO, hugely disappointing. The Civic was the next choice but it feels boring, even compared to my ex 1.3 Punto! The Civic interior is top notch though. Then called my Fiat salesman and he invited me to try the new Bravo. The NA Bravo was nothing to shout about but smooth and had the "Italian Sound"! Then he let me try the Bravo Turbo aka T-Jet. I was hooked man. Pure shiokness. Booked a black one on the spot(without my wife's knowledge) . Now 2500km I have no regrets at all. Next need do some mods and change from 16" to 17". The Original rim damn difficult to clean. Any bros here with same car. Need to share idea how to mod.

Have been procrastinating for years. But still have not gathered enough courage to put my eyes through the laser. Any feedback from bros will be appreciated. Btw, I am 525 degree on each eye and no astig hor.

http://health.asiaone.com/Health/News/Stor...620-285057.html Top 5 regrets on deathbed These are the top five regrets former nurse Bronnie Ware has heard from patients on their deathbeds: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 2. I wish I didn't work so hard. 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5. I wish I had let myself be happier.

Found this article: =================================================================== Ms. Bronnie Ware has worked with the dying for many years. She recently detailed the top 5 regrets that people have on their deathbed on her blog (http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html). =================================================================== 5 regrets people have on their deathbeds While we are all bound to have some regrets in life, here are the top 5. 1. I wish I

http://in.reuters.com/article/innovationNe...0090206?sp=true Risk-taker Ho Ching has no regrets Fri Feb 6, 2009 5:36pm IS SINGAPORE (Reuters) - Ho Ching, wife of Singapore Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong, will step down as chief executive of Temasek, ending a 5-year term which saw the state investment agency expand aggressively beyond Singapore. It was also involved in controversies around the region. Ho, 55, joined Temasek as a director in January 2002 and became CEO two years later. She will be replaced by Chip Goodyear, former chief of global miner BHP Billiton, in October. One of Ho's colleagues once said it was her willingness to take risks, not her family ties, that won her the top job at Temasek, with a mandate to shake up Singapore's state investor, which had assets under management of S$185 billion ($123 billion) at end-March 2008. That penchant for risk-taking came to the fore in 2007 with Temasek's surprise 2.1 billion pound ($3.1 billion) investment in British bank Barclays Plc (BARC.L: Quote, Profile, Research), which was locked in a costly bidding war for Dutch rival ABN AMRO in what would be the world's biggest bank takeover. Barclays' share price has sunk to a little over 1 pound from more than 7 pounds when Temasek bought its shares 18 months ago. The investment was one of many big deals engineered by Ho, who keeps a low profile despite her prominence in financial circles and as a member by marriage of Singapore's first family. Since taking the helm at Temasek, Ho has stepped up the fund's diversification beyond its small home market. Her goal: a portfolio split with about a third invested in Singapore, a third elsewhere in Asia, and the rest in developed economies. But while Temasek is regarded as the Asian standard-bearer among increasingly prominent sovereign funds, its large size and government links have provoked opposition to its investments in nearby Thailand and Indonesia. In 2006, a Temasek-led $3.8 billion investment in Thai telecoms firm Shin Corp SHIN.BK, then owned by the family of former Thai Prime Minister Thaksin Shinawatra, triggered a prolonged political crisis in Bangkok that led to Thaksin's ouster in a bloodless coup. Shin has since lost about two-thirds of its market value. Temasek's investment in Indonesia's PT Indosat (ISAT.JK: Quote, Profile, Research) has also come under attack, in part because Temasek-linked companies are big investors in the country's telecoms sector. Temasek says it is not involved in any anti-competitive business practices. Temasek is nursing losses from high profile investments in Merrill Lynch and Barclays as it looked to expand outside Asia, but came up against a global financial crisis. "These are turbulent times and I'm sure she must have had a stressful time this year," said David Cohen, economist at Action Economics. Temasek's $5 billion plus investment in Merrill alone has resulted in a loss of more than $2 billion. Temasek Chairman S. Dhanabalan said Ho's decision to step down was not linked to performance, and it was too early to determine if investments made in the last two years would lose out in the long-term. Ho tends to avoid the media and has made few comments on Shin. When she addressed a Morgan Stanley conference in November 2006, with the Shin deal in the limelight, the bank told the media not to ask questions. Ho began her career at Singapore's Ministry of Defense, where she met her husband, the eldest son of former Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew. While Lee took up a variety of cabinet positions, Ho moved to state-owned Singapore Technologies in 1987, running a mix of defense, technology, property and stockbroking firms which she restructured, divesting some units and listing others. When Dhanabalan, a former cabinet minister, asked Ho to head Temasek, he told local media she was "the best person for the job," and the appointment had "nothing to do" with her being Lee's wife. Asked on Friday if she had any regrets as her departure was announced, Ho replied: "No. I think if you want to run life with regret, you will end up doing very little."

By Sue-Ann Chia "Yaw Shin Leong says change of heart partly prompted by criticism against him." Personally, I will have a change of heart if what I believed in was proven wrong and not by criticisms from family or friends. WORKERS' Party (WP) leader Yaw Shin Leong, who won praise and criticism alike for disclosing that he had voted for the People's Action Party (PAP) in the 2006 General Election, now regrets the decision. The 32-year-old businessman said his change of heart came after 'introspection and contemplation' as he prepared to mark eight years of activism with the WP on June 24. 'I have woken up from this matrix-like slumber. Voting for a candidate from the ruling regime based on my shallow personal liking and consideration had contravened the very ideals which I had originally entered opposition politics for,' he said in the latest posting on his blog. 'It also contradicted our efforts in urging voters to value the choice provided by opposition candidates.' The Bukit Panjang resident said he would not vote for his MP, Dr Teo Ho Pin, at the next election, and urged Singaporeans to 'vote in solidarity to deny the PAP'. Mr Yaw, the WP's organising secretary, was caught in the eye of an online storm last month after saying that he had voted for Dr Teo over the Singapore Democratic Party's Mr Ling How Doong. Dr Teo was the better candidate, he had said, adding: 'There is nothing inherently wrong for me to vote for an MP, regardless of his/her partisan background, whom in my opinion is the better man who can better serve the interests of Singapore and my community.' That disclosure sparked criticism from opposition supporters who attacked him for voting for the 'other side', and for sending conflicting signals. He was, after all, head of the six-man WP team which stood against a PAP team led by Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong in Ang Mo Kio GRC. But others praised him for his political maturity. Mr Yaw said, when contacted on Wednesday, that his change of heart was also prompted by the criticism he faced. Friends scolded him for letting them down. And strangers called or told him during his walkabouts that he had disappointed them. 'I realised I had sent a confusing message to supporters,' he told The Straits Times. 'Being an opposition member, I must put the need for pluralism as a higher priority than voting for a better municipal MP.' While party leaders did not rap him, WP chief and Hougang MP Low Thia Khiang did tell Mr Yaw that in voting for the better candidate, he had fallen into 'the propaganda trap of the PAP'. Mr Yaw said in his blog that the main consideration for many who voted for the WP was 'the need to have a balanced political system and a voice in Parliament...' And he accepted criticism that had Ang Mo Kio voters adopted his 'better candidate' argument, 'my team would not even come close to securing 33.86 per cent of the votes'. Despite what he said in his blog, Mr Yaw told The Straits Times that he did not want Singaporeans to vote for the opposition at all cost too. He said: 'I encourage Singaporeans to vote with their conscience. If they really feel that the opposition candidates are not deserving, don't support them.' Political observer Eugene Tan said Mr Yaw's latest post showed he had decided to put on the hat of an opposition politician instead of being just a 'responsible voter'.

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Hi guys, I am tempting to buy a Mit Colt 2003 model. but I am trying to get more reviews on this car and I realised so far, not much people commented on this car. Can any owners or previous owners help? Everyone tells me to get the Honda Jazz, but if I can't get that Jazz, Colt is my 2nd choice, so I am seeking for help! Pls reply asap. Thank you!

Hi everybody! I recently booked my Aveo HB, waiting to collect in March. It's my very first car, so was really quite uncertain before I signed on the dotted line. But it seems to me just from reading this forum that everyone's quite free of complaints abt their car... (Or is it because unhappy people wouldn't be hanging around a Chevy owners' forum??) So just wanted to know how long you've had your ride, and any regrets whatsoever about your choice of cars? And if can go back, would you have chosen another vehicle and which? I know lah, booked liao, so now then ask a bit late. But quite curious mah..

Help is urgently needed Recently installed a high flow muffler to my Xsara. The result was not to my expectations. Low end torque almost gone. Previously my Xsara was pretty responsive at low rev as peak torque arrived at 3000rpm. After the installation, can see the rpm needle taking its own sweet time to climb the rev range. Only after ard 4K rpm do I see an surge in the rate of increase (putting a smile back into my face). But anyway, conti cars are not high revving machines and the SG driving conditions seldom need me to rev beyond 3K on normal days. Even my wife can feel the diff (she though I was saving fuel after the recent price hike . Any ideas (short of swapping back my stock muffler, luckily kaisu and ask to keep it) of improving the situation. Have not change the cat yet though (waiting for so good stuff to come in from overseas [angelic] TL