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1 in 10 may have it above 60... And this was something I mentioned: This statistic is very frightening, and some of us know someone or even might have it.. If we are in this forum, we are probably a little above average and we should be aware of this ailment, and then do something about it for these folks. We mustn't let them die alone.. Instead of just MUs, maybe when we next have a meal, let's bring some of them out, and as I said, adding another pair of chopsticks isn't hard. My friends and I go to the rental homes spread out throughout Singapore and clean up their homes, and take them out for meals. If funds permit, we also give them something at CNY or Christmas.. And it's not about rounding them up to be locked up in old folks homes, in SG or worse JB... Let them live and die with some dignity. The government provides for their medical needs, and they can get rent free accommodations if they apply, but many aren't literate. $280 is what they are given, and even simply pleasures in life are hard to come by. When you are 80, it's hard to give up smoking... Some live on one meal a day, given by the charitable groups who come, and if these dementia patients forget to come down during the meal distribution times, they may not get that meal. Some of them have bad eyesight, and eat food that's covered with ants.. So take a little time, visit them, say hello and listen. No need for fancy meals, but just take them out for a coffee, a lunch and give them some laughter. https://www.straitstimes.com/lifestyle/i-cant-remember-my-own-name-sometimes-71-year-old-battles-dementia-on-his-own Where are these one room flats found? TPY, Beach Rd, and many more places.. Some are located amongst the very same districts where the high rise, high PSF homes like Queenstown are.... They may have kids, but they are now alone, or the kids have abandoned them, and others just choose to live alone so as not to be a burden for their kids..

Good thing for CAR forums, it's not so lonely hahaha https://www.ricemedia.co/culture-life-singaporean-men-50s-non-existent-social-circles/ Why Do Singaporean Men in Their 50s Have Non-Existent Social Circles? Culture Life 5 Jul 2019 Photos: RICE/Zachary Tang David Attenborough would have a field day with the male homo sapiens. They may be a strange species, but—I will give them this—they are consistently fascinating across the board. From broader subspecies (Alpha Males, Ah Bengs, Christian Boys) to more niche ones, such as Men Who Blue-Tick Or Selectively Reply Your Texts But Continue To Watch All Your IG Stories, each one leaves me with more unanswered questions than watching a certain minister talk about POFMA with Michelle Chong. But there is one subspecies I had never given much thought until now: Men In Their 50s Who Appear To Have Zero Friends. This subspecies is typically middle-class with their own family. Their lives follow a familiar routine: after work, they go home, have dinner, and spend the rest of the night watching TV or videos on their phones. Rinse and repeat—every day. In their spare time or on weekends, they do grocery shopping at their neighbourhood NTUC FairPrice, sit at mall food courts scrolling their phones, or just … I don’t know … exist? If you are in your early to mid-20s, chances are you live with one such specimen in your own home: your dad. A man in his 50s... Probably. “Aside from work and family, my dad doesn’t seem to have friends. I think this is a thing, you know,” a colleague enthuses one day. Let’s call her X. When I ask X to elaborate on her observation, she sends me a WhatsApp message that’s essentially an 800-word essay (!!). “I feel bad for him because my mom has quite a few friends, and so do my sister and I. When we’re not around, he’s kinda alone. Surely this will get worse when my sis and I eventually get married and move out,” she begins. “At his job, he’s the boss so he doesn’t really socialise with his colleagues. He eats a lot of his meals alone. And if something bad happens at work or at home who can he talk to right? He complains a lot to my mom about work and life already, but I don’t think it’s healthy to heap all of this onto one person. I don’t quite comprehend how someone can go through life with family being their only support system.” While X’s dad doesn’t hate socialising, he doesn’t actively build or maintain strong friendships either, probably because “he’s not looking for anything long term, just some social interaction every now and then”. Other friends reveal a similar pattern: their dads return home after work, then spend the evening with family and/or alone. Sometimes, they while away time by drifting in and out of their children’s rooms after dinner to make conversation, or park themselves on the corner of a couch watching Youtube. If they have regular ‘hobbies’, they’re mostly solitary ones, such as reading, exercising, taking walks, going to the museum, tending to potted plants, commenting on car forums, scrolling through Facebook, playing golf, and so on. Outside work, their social interactions are usually limited to their children or wife’s friends (although the latter is extremely rare). A few mention their dads “keeping in touch with friends” via WhatsApp, but rarely see their dads actually spend time with said friends. One friend says his dad attends the occasional school reunion, but otherwise doesn’t have friends whom he meets often. Their dads’ reasons for a relatively solitary lifestyle include “no time”, “no reason to [hang out with friends]”, “prefer spending time at home”, or simply that they just prefer life this way. A man in his 50s? Could be. Almost everyone intuitively understands how the exact demographic in question operates, but it’s trickier to pinpoint the root of the phenomena. And as a Single Female Millennial, I am the furthest possible subspecies from Men In Their 50s. But I get it. For starters, it’s common knowledge that friendships tend to dwindle significantly once you become a parent, and this is no one’s fault. Parenting is simply the most life-changing and all-consuming job in the world. When you’re not changing diapers, you’re thinking of the next time you have to change diapers. Or find a Good School for your child to attend. Or deal with conflicting in-law parenting techniques. Or basically just ensure your kid doesn’t die on your watch. Thus most parents would be familiar with the inevitable gravitation towards their child becoming the fulcrum upon which their universe hinges. This unconscious decision usually entails solely focusing on work outside of family, so they can provide for said family, and often results in the culling of many ‘frivolous pursuits’. Drinking with your buddies till 1 AM: No go. Sleeping in till 11 AM on weekends and spending the rest of the day in bed poring over Netflix: Not anymore. Spontaneously arranging to meet a friend in town for brunch just a few hours before: Are you shitting me? Absolutely not. Life becomes a succession of precise and predictable plans. With ‘adventure’ nuked from a parent’s vocabulary, every routine is meant to minimise any chance of mess ups, which might be a mere headache for regular folk but could actually cause a ruptured blood vessel for parents. Apparently though, this ‘affliction’ doesn’t quite befall their female counterparts (i.e. Women/Moms In Their 50s). Perhaps women, in general, appear to more readily engage in idle gossip and chit-chat, therefore giving themselves more opportunities to socialise with new friends or acquaintances in their later years. The same friends whose dads have little/no friends report their moms being more likely to turn colleagues into friends, develop interests and hobbies that grant them access to a whole new community, or become friends with other moms. So they don’t worry as much about what their moms would do or how they’d occupy their time after retirement. A man in his 50s. Or 60s? Sorry uncle, I can't tell. Dads In Their 50s, however, grew up in a time when men were usually the sole breadwinner in the family. They were taught to prioritise putting in hard work and doing everything to provide for their families. As a result, friendships were seen as secondary to their mental and emotional wellbeing. If there was time to cultivate thriving friendships, that was simply a bonus. Friendships were never a necessity for a ‘good life’. And so, in their early/mid-30s to 50s, Dads In Their 50s gave up friendships to raise us. Unfortunately, these years are crucial for building sustainable lifelong adult friendships, which are already tedious to maintain even if one were single. Once their children are grown adults, Dads In Their 50s realise they no longer have the social circles they used to have in their 20s. At this stage, their friends are either married and/or with their own families, or they’ve stayed single and led a starkly different life that it would be near impossible to reunite based on common interests. Unless they were intentional enough to rekindle friendships or court new friends, Dads In Their 50s can hardly make “friends” who aren’t other Dads In Their 50s. That said, fading friendships have been a thing since time immemorial, and seem to plague Men Of All Ages. As it is, a male friend once mentioned feeling like he’d lost all his friends after becoming a parent. He now struggles to bridge the chasm between his old life and his present reality as a parent. Though no man is an island, many eventually learn to be self-reliant, although not reclusive. A man on his 50s. I mean, who knows anymore, really? Many of us are eons away from retirement, so the prospect of how or with whom we’re going to spend our old age might be a mere abstraction. But, if our Dads In Their 50s are anything to go by, those of us who plan to get married and start families should pay heed to the seemingly inevitable death of our social circles. Even though pop culture rarely accords as much weight to friendships as romantic relationships, the significance of having close friends throughout life cannot be understated. After all, it is only healthy to have our own priorities that aren’t tied to familial obligations. If we don’t want to turn out like Men In Their 50s Who Appear To Have Zero Friends, then cultivating friendships should be an intentional and lifelong endeavour. But therein lies another issue: while our concerns that our Dads In Their 50s don’t get lonely in old age stem from a good place, we might also unwittingly be perpetuating the idea that solitude or being alone is a ‘bad thing’, and that extroversion or socialisation is the ‘norm’. There seem to be few people who are as comfortable taking walks alone, eating alone, going shopping alone, travelling alone, spending time alone, as Men In Their 50s Who Appear To Have Zero Friends. It might often be an inadvertent consequence of marriage and starting a family, but let’s not presume they aren’t perfectly content. It is often said that all you need is one person. Men In Their 50s Who Appear To Have Zero Friends remind us this person should, first and foremost, be ourselves. I LOL at this one hahaha...sounds like @davidtch If they have regular ‘hobbies’, they’re mostly solitary ones, such as reading, exercising, taking walks, going to the museum, tending to potted plants, commenting on car forums, scrolling through Facebook, playing golf, and so on. Outside work, their social interactions are usually limited to their children or wife’s friends (although the latter is extremely rare). A few mention their dads “keeping in touch with friends” via WhatsApp, but rarely see their dads actually spend time with said friends. One friend says his dad attends the occasional school reunion, but o

are there really so many lonely singles out there girls more than boys or boys more than girls so many dating services and online dating services - how come still got this problem somemore got government helping is the online dating services unreliable too many false posting expensive etc your comments please i got a friend who is going to be 50 and a professional ... given up on finding a wife, his monthly salary is at least $40,000 another friend working overseas going to be late 30 years still single, no hurry getting attached how to help these people

knn dunno why nowadays so lonely

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WHen mamasan first started her 'career', she wanted and did serve her customers will full commitment and 'devotion'..... the lounge was new and young, everyone cooporeated with her and chipped in to keep the place alive.... while mamasan was chio and flirty, she rans the place with her iron fists.... no nonsence and if anyone tried to be cheeky, her bouncers would make sure the guy learn a lesson he'll never forget.... some guys ended up a bankrupt or free staying in most secured hotel in town (not H61 though) so she became successful, she roped in her son to help run the joint.... and the son worked very hard using his past NS army experience, so hard that somehow his wife committed suicide (or so the rumours went)..... no problem, mamason arranged for a 2nd wife who coincidentally ended up as the head of the holding company of a chain of ktvs, even as far as NZ, Thailand, OZland.... along the way the daughterinlaw lost some money, but just peanut, as the saying goes... mamasan has full confidence in her daughterINlaw, so no big deal even there may be more losses hidden or otherwise.... in her industry, honest misakes are totally acceptable as mamasan's ktv empire grew, she added a papasan aka chief security guard whose expertise was to provide world class washrooms without attendents to hand you warm towel and collect tips.... unfortunately one very important customer went missing in the toilet..... so our mamasan did the righting: punished the toilet cleaners but spared the security chief...... mamasan also ventures into property developments and provide housing for her staff and customers, mamasan employs a Mr Beh to run the property arm...... unfortunately the price Mr Beh charges for these flats keeps going up and up..... so these everyone complains...... he now has to write a book (first ever publish by a papasan) to explain things and try to salvage his reputation..... after 45 years in the business, mamasan is getting on in age but she is still the 'voice' in the ktv, her title now is MM aka mamasan mentor.... her assistant (now also retired) is SM aka senior mamasan........... seeing that her ktv chain is successful, she is worried about corruptions, so she comes up with the brilliant idea of paying herself and her son, plus all the xao yeh the world's highest salaries in the industry...... she firmly believes ktv talents deserves the highest pay ........... the story has to end here for the time being coz mamasan is watching over my back ........ she said "stop this bo liao thread else my lawyer will see you in court....."