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5 reasons why more couples are considering open relationships https://www.asiaone.com/lifestyle/5-reasons-why-more-couples-are-considering-open-relationships?utm_term=Autofeed&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR1c13VRLIHOdmLVMfr0Y3IlR6Re2unx38Qkrwf82dKymJ89Q6mHRyQkoHE#Echobox=1662895570 SEPTEMBER 11, 2022 PUBLISHED AT 4:30 PM By KAMILLE URIELLA BATUYONG Do you ever wonder why more couples consider transitioning their romance into open relationships? It is completely okay to wonder, because non-monogamous relationships have long been taboo. Though most of us value loyal partners, there are those who don't mind adding more people to their life. To this day, most people still look down on couples who don’t mind including additional sexual partners in their relationships. Not many people are open to the idea of being in a non-monogamous relationship. They often shun or cut off people who don’t mind having multiple partners. However, even though it is not common at the moment, there is rising interest in this matter. Are you also curious about what an open relationship is all about? An open relationship allows partners to have more than one romantic or sexual partner at a time. It is a consensual, non-monogamous relationship where both partners can engage in sex and emotional attachment with other people. In this kind of relationship set-up, both parties should agree that both are non-exclusive or non-monogamous. Those in committed relationships may find it hard to understand why some are open to non-monogamy. 5 reasons why more couples consider open relationships Looking for someone who an individual considers as 'the one' is common for many people across the globe. It is because society constantly reminds them that everyone has to look for that one person in their life that can make them feel complete. Most of them believe in the idea that everyone has their soulmate that will be our one and only. Because of this, we often look down on people who cheat or start affairs. However, people can never deny the fact that there is no right or wrong in love. There is no exact and specific pattern for people to find love and feel happy in a relationship. Every person has their ways on how to shape their relationship that can best suit them as well as their partner. Some couples may consider having an open relationship as it suits them the best. Here are the common reasons why some couples engage in an open relationship: Open to experimenting Nowadays, other kinds of relationships outside of the norm are gradually being accepted in society. These things usually start when a couple hopes to add more excitement to their romance. An open relationship could work for you and your partner if you are willing to open yourself to experimenting. Both of you must willingly experiment with a partner of a different gender, or you have mismatched sex drives. Couples in non-monogamous relationships have greater variations in their sex lives. They tend to have better and more frequent sexual contact than they did when they were monogamous. Struggle to commit to just one romantic relationship Many people find it difficult to commit to just one romantic relationship. Some people believe that being faithful to one person for the rest of their life is unrealistic. Instead of experiencing temptation that could eventually lead to cheating, several people just choose to switch to an open relationship. This reasoning usually applies to couples who have never had relationships with other people. Right amount of jealousy is not an issue In relationship matters, the word 'jealousy' has a negative connotation. Many people view it as a bad thing in any relationship. However, jealousy can be a good thing at times. It can be a reminder that an individual is still attracted to their partner. Concerning this, the levels of jealousy in non-monogamous relationships are much lower than those in monogamous relationships. Change relationship rules anytime People in an open relationship can build and change relationship rules anytime. The relationship is built on mutual respect between both parties. In a non-monogamous relationship, people should also discuss boundaries. Both parties must have a say and right to decide what to do in the relationship. Both persons know what they want Open relationships help people learn how to communicate their desires to their partners. Those in a relationship must know how to open themselves, especially to their partner. We need to remember that couples who switch to non-monogamous relationships often do so with consent. It’s not always about making an excuse because they want to start an affair. 7 types of open relationships Do you want to know more about open relationships? Well, there are so many types that will surprise almost anyone. To make things simple, we listed seven types of common non-monogamous relationships that we think you should know about. Swingers: Most of you have probably heard of the “swinging lifestyle.” Couples interested in this practice usually partake in sex-only relationships and avoid any romantic attachments. Polyamory: It is a relationship model based on the idea of having romantic love with more than one person. Solo polyamory: Individuals in solo polyamory do not need or want a primary partner. Hierarchical polyamory: Couples who are either married or in a long-term relationship, and decide to engage in an open relationship. Triad or throuple: Three people are in a romantic and sexual relationship with each other. Quad: It is a type of open relationship when four people maintain a romantic and sexual connection, not necessarily in every configuration. Monogamish: In this kind of relationship, the couple is usually monogamous. However, they make allowances for occasional extra-curricular dalliance.

Outrageous new TV dating shows cut straight to chase Once upon a time in a more coy era people made an effort to get to know each other -- perhaps learning each other's names -- before hopping into bed together. But for the swipe-right generation raised on dating apps like Tinder that is so last century, television executives believe. A new dating show is helping time-pressed millennials save on the unnecessary preliminaries by cutting straight to the chase. "Making Love" has jaws dropping at MIPCOM, the world's biggest TV market in Cannes, by having contestants have sex first before deciding if they like each other. Its French producers WeMake said it has brought together "scientifically-matched singles" to ask the essential question, "Could making love make you fall in love?" They billed the show -- which is being sold at MIPCOM -- as "a ground-breaking experiment into how humans fall in love. "Behind the (bedroom) door cameras have captured the new couple's every move, every awkward moment," the producers said, before pulling away at the last minute only to reappear in the post-coital glow -- or gloom. Contestants can then hurry into the bathroom to debrief the audience on just how their new partner performed. - Friends-with-benefits - "We will follow the daters over the next few weeks to see if the pair remain friends-with-benefits only or will they chose to get to know each other and start a relationship," the show's trailer promised. Although the producers are French, the contestants for the pilot show were British. The format is one of several new series which are likely to pop up on TV screens across the globe in the next few years. Analyst Virginia Mouseler of The Wit database said the new age of dating was not for prudes.

This article is taken from Pink Dot website hor, homophobia please stay out hor. btw, I am straight. I am just curious to read more on Pink Dot I didn't know MCYS allows adoption by same sex couples. Honestly, mayb I have some homophobia in me, isn't it inappropriate for same-sex couples to adope children? What kind of family values will the child get? They call their parents Papa and Papa? 2 men taking care of their kids together. P.S: my homophobia only limited to guy-guy. I am perfectly fine with girl-girl. But again, what kind of values will girl-girl couple teach their adopted children? Mama and mama? ---------------------------------------- SOMEDAY, TODAY, NOW! Posted on June 8th, by Pink Dot Sg in Pink Dot 2012, Someday. It is not “someday”, but today. My best friend and her husband, both devout Christians, are happy now that their lesbian daughter (in her late thirties) has found a loving, supportive partner for life. Their daughter and her partner live with the partner’s family, and the couple visit and dine regularly with my friend and her husband, like any good, married daughter and her spouse. A few months back, my former student took me out for lunch, and told me about his long-term partner, who is English. The two men, who work in the medical field, have been together for more than 12 years, and his good news is that their families have accepted their relationship. My former student’s family is Singaporean and Catholic, and his partner’s parents are English and Anglican. Since we were having a Japanese lunch, we toasted his good news with sake. A few years ago, I had a similar happy surprise when I met a former nun and her partner at a tai chi class. The couple told me that they have been together for more than 15 years. With the blessing of their Catholic families and friends. My heart leapt. What wonderful, loving families they have. Since the publication of my book, “The Lies That Build A Marriage” and the TV film, “The Morning After”, I have had the opportunity to meet several gay and lesbian couples who have been together for several years, some for as long as 25 years, which makes it a union much longer than many marriages between a man and a woman these days. One such couple I had the good fortune to meet are two highly talented musicians in their early fifties who celebrated their 25th anniversary three years ago. Both men had met when they were young twenty-somethings. Today they are a mature, loving couple, and it is such a joy for me to be in their company as I listen to the music they produce with their eyes, their laughter, and their gestures. And I can’t help but wish and pray that some day, my son will have a long-term relationship like theirs. I know some time this year I will be drinking a toast to their 28th anniversary. There is another gay couple I know in Singapore who have been together since their varsity days. The two men are highly respected professionals in their mid-forties, and they are quietly bringing up their three lovely children with the support of their parents and extended families. These two long-term relationships remind me of my family’s amah and her life-long partner. The two women shared a home in Jalan Besar and adopted a daughter who became my playmate. As a child, I was fortunate to have had such a loving amah who took me to her home when she went back to visit her partner and their daughter. During such visits, I don’t remember my superstitious, temple-going mother ever making a fuss about sin and morality. My amah and her partner lived together till death parted them, and I celebrated their life-long devotion to each other in my short story, “My Two Mothers.” Today, these loving, long-term, gay and lesbian relationships in our midst are often hidden from view. When more of them become visible to the public, there will be no need to turn pink every year. Some day we will not need a pink dot to clamour for social acceptance. Some day, the heterosexual majority will feel secure enough about their own values and morality to accept the gay and lesbian relationships in their midst, without feeling threatened. It will happen. It is already happening, albeit quietly, for real change takes place below the radar and twitter of the Internet and the media. Today, there are already many families in Singapore who have accepted (often without much fuss) the long-term gay and lesbian relationships of their children, siblings and relatives. For deep down, most of us in the heterosexual majority can see beyond the sexual orientation of our sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, cousins, uncles and aunties. Deep down, we see beyond the laws of church and country. It is not so much the social acceptance and legal freedom to love, but the fidelity and the commitment to each other to work at nurturing our partnership for the long haul that transforms a couple’s relationship (whether it is heterosexual or LGBT) into a marriage.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/world/asia_pacific/chinese-couples-rush-to-get-pregnant-before-dreaded-year-of-the-sheep/2014/05/08/e9f4adbc-d529-11e3-8a78-8fe50322a72c_story.html wah will next year's baby gifts offset this?

http://www.yourhealth.com.sg/content/chine...les-make-babies Why can't sgp have this man? It even provides the services of a sexpert to give "pointers". Kinky. I wonder if the baby will have leopard prints on the skin after being born?

....wah jialat liddat. Now Gahmen must take care of ppl liddis too.....knn, never hear of taxi ah OWNING a car is a necessity, not a dream, for a family with young children. Just think of the daily morning rush to send a child to day care or a baby to the grandparents' homes. From prams to milk bottles, diapers to food, change of clothing to wet wipes, the list of mandatory baby or child supplies is long and difficult to trundle if one has to resort to public transport. The weekend is short when one has children and errands must be undertaken with the entire family in tow. How do you visit the bank, take the child to the doctor, buy groceries and visit the grandparents in a day? Answer: By having a car, which makes a significant difference in the quality of life for Singapore families. The Government has announced further reduction in vehicle growth rate which will ratchet up prices of certificates of entitlement (COE) further, beyond the reach of young couples. The Government should consider offering COE rebates for cars with 1,600cc capacity and less to families with at least one child, and rebates for bigger-capacity cars to families with at least two children. The latter takes into consideration families with grandparents, two young children (two car seats required) and a maid. For a family with young children, a car is not an optional, flashy plaything. Wang Siang Ling (Ms)

AsiaOne Tuesday, Jul 26, 2011 A mainland Chinese couple, both in their 30s, were slashed in their necks at the doorstep of their flat at Blk 716, Tampines Street 71 yesterday at about 10.20pm. They were about to enter the flat when the attacker charged towards them with a knife, reported Shin Min Daily. The attacker is allegedly a youth who lived one floor below the couple, and has been observed to behave strangely. He is also believed to be suffering from mental illness. When attacked, the couple resisted, but could not prevent being injured. They shouted for help and caught the attention of their neighbour, Mr Lim, a 74-year-old retiree. Mr Lim recalled that the corridor and his neighbours' potted plants were stained with blood. He saw that the couple were in shock, but conscious and held cloth against their wounds to prevent excessive loss of blood as they sat leaning against each other. The youth appeared to be injured from the scuffle and was lying motionless on the corridor floor. The police arrived at the scene and brought the youth away.

Due to some reason, can't celebrate V-Day tomorrow. So, instead, will do it this friday. Was thinking of ordering Italian take away (good ones. Maybe La Strada. Something along that line) and a bottle of wine. Put down a mat and spend the (or most of) night there. Which part of east coast better for this? Thanks.....

To your younger/older cousins who are single....or your older sis/bro?