Lonely deaths on the rise

[mersaylee]

Life goes on...life lessons to be passed on...seek to live...heed to heal...

Inner peace is yours to keep...🙏😌

 

[Stary]

On 10/30/2024 at 12:57 AM, mersaylee said:

Life goes on...life lessons to be passed on...seek to live...heed to heal...

Inner peace is yours to keep...🙏😌

Those lessons from the video are nice! Resonates with me because those are the  reasons why I choose to retire young at the peak of my career.

Life has 3 pillars to balance: Work (Income), Health and Relationship.

Work has a negative correlation with Health and Relationship. Work produces stress and also poor eating & lifestyle habits (irregular meals,  less sleep,  over-eating, drinking, etc)   that will deteriorate health in the long run. Work consumes time which eat into building relationship time. 

Income matters but it doesn't produce happiness. Happiness comes from a healthy body and meaningful relationship with our love ones.  Most people only discover that in their late 60s or 70s when they wish they had spent more time with their love ones during  their healthier times. 

Edited October 30 by Stary

[Jman888]

On 10/30/2024 at 9:58 AM, Stary said:

Those lessons from the video are nice! Resonates with me because those are the  reasons why I choose to retire young at the peak of my career.

Life has 3 pillars to balance: Work (Income), Health and Relationship.

Work has a negative correlation with Health and Relationship. Work produces stress and also poor eating & lifestyle habits (irregular meals,  less sleep,  over-eating, drinking, etc)   that will deteriorate health in the long run. Work consumes time which eat into building relationship time. 

Income matters but it doesn't produce happiness. Happiness comes from a healthy body and meaningful relationship with our love ones.  Most people only discover that in their late 60s or 70s when they wish they had spent more time with their love ones during  their healthier times. 

many people still find joys, happiness and satisfaction in their Jobs, and the attitude towars a job. I probably only have 2-3 years of bad working environment, just quit if you think it is bad for your health and relationship. 

depends if one wish to sacrifice just for quick money or have a healthy and meaningful job yet still have sustainable income.

[Ender]

Back to topic. I just joined a facebook community group for Senior in Singapore recently. There's quite a number of singles seniors in the group actually. So this problem of above 50s dying alone will get more. 

 

 

[Stary]

On 10/30/2024 at 12:10 PM, Jman888 said:

many people still find joys, happiness and satisfaction in their Jobs, and the attitude towars a job. I probably only have 2-3 years of bad working environment, just quit if you think it is bad for your health and relationship. 

depends if one wish to sacrifice just for quick money or have a healthy and meaningful job yet still have sustainable income.

You are right. Many find joy, happiness and satisfaction at work. I felt the same during my career days. Life at work is fantastic with many good colleagues, a good income  and I simply love it. 

But one day, I realised  that those  were not joy, happiness and satisfaction.  Those were merely excitement, a sense of pride and dignity at work  which were exchange at the expense of health and relationship at home. 

As humans, our innate happiness is derive only through people (usually our family members and close friends) and purpose (what we do for them).  Some people will not agree with me on this, but one day as they age, they will know it is true.

 

Edited October 30 by Stary

[Ender]

On 10/29/2024 at 7:35 PM, Ody_2004 said:

 

This guy is a recipient of the last rite charity. But before that he was a giver to others who needed the last rites done proper for them.

[Mustank]

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/cyyutK6PwBGPwrJL

[SGCMmadman]

On 10/30/2024 at 1:02 PM, Ender said:

This guy is a recipient of the last rite charity. But before that he was a giver to others who needed the last rites done proper for them.

U mean he has mati? Saw the cna documentary, very enlightening. M planning to will sum share of property to the organisation. Dey are angels to all the races who are alone.

[Karoon]

Maybe need new kind of hdb for aged loners... 4 persons share 1 unit of 4 bedrooms, 4 toilets, 1 hall/ kitchen flat. Get along, or die alone. 

[Sosaria]

On 10/30/2024 at 7:00 PM, Karoon said:

Maybe need new kind of hdb for aged loners... 4 persons share 1 unit of 4 bedrooms, 4 toilets, 1 hall/ kitchen flat. Get along, or die alone. 

Already have such arrangement. It's called rental flats . Some of the oldies staying in this setup do get along but some don't.

Most of these oldies who are alone usually have some anti social behaviour or habit that's impossible to change. Even drives away their family members. No surprise they die alone without anyone realizing anything.

Edited October 30 by Sosaria

[Ct3833]

Ministry  of social and family development should  work with some companies to develop a wearable  for these people who live alone such that when one's heartbeat drops below certain threshold or even stops, the wearable will send a signal to a helpdesk so that someone could respond to the situation. 

[Jman888]

On 10/30/2024 at 7:20 PM, Sosaria said:

Already have such arrangement. It's called rental flats . Some of the oldies staying in this setup do get along but some don't.

Most of these oldies who are alone usually have some anti social behaviour or habit that's impossible to change. Even drives away their family members. No surprise they die alone without anyone realizing anything.

yes, a lot of fighting and a few got killed.

[13177]

On 10/30/2024 at 7:00 PM, Karoon said:

Maybe need new kind of hdb for aged loners... 4 persons share 1 unit of 4 bedrooms, 4 toilets, 1 hall/ kitchen flat. Get along, or die alone. 

I think some people might prefer to die alone than get along. 😅

[Karoon]

On 10/30/2024 at 7:20 PM, Sosaria said:

Already have such arrangement. It's called rental flats . Some of the oldies staying in this setup do get along but some don't.

Most of these oldies who are alone usually have some anti social behaviour or habit that's impossible to change. Even drives away their family members. No surprise they die alone without anyone realizing anything.

But share bathroom is a trigger for these guys. Need one room one toilet.

[Stary]

On 10/30/2024 at 7:20 PM, Sosaria said:

Most of these oldies who are alone usually have some anti social behaviour or habit that's impossible to change. Even drives away their family members. No surprise they die alone without anyone realizing anything.

On the above, sometimes I like to put on my critical thinking hat and think from a different perspective.

Are these oldies really anti-social or are they being made to look anti-social by their close ones?

All I know is that there are very few oldies who doesn't value the company of their children. But there are certainly many more children who doesn't value the company of their old folks.

Of course, some are truly anti-social because of old-age  mental health issues, but for the rest, I will not be so quickly jump into judgement.

Edited October 31 by Stary

[Ct3833]

Anorher case，seventy year old pass on at home without anyone knowing

[Ct3833]

Came out in the paper, there are 12,000 old folks living alone, that is a huge number.

[inlinesix]

On 11/2/2024 at 10:15 PM, Ct3833 said:

Came out in the paper, there are 12,000 old folks living alone, that is a huge number.

120k by 2030