5 reasons why more couples are considering open relationships

[mersaylee]

4 hours ago, Beanoyip said:

All i can say YOLO! Cultures evolve.. 

It's just one of the western "value" exports to undermine the cohesiveness in Asian societies. They have the strength but we have the overwhelming numbers...

Fine...global warming is real...but the land is vast enough to accommodate if there's a strong wil to grow and coexist...i guess the dollah and cent (and sense) don't add up...plus no one is willing to risk throwing a dime or more into other's pocket...

Haizz...humanity...the Queen and many others have had seen enuf...good luck humanity, good luck earth😅😁 

[inlinesix]

Just now, mersaylee said:

It's just one of the western "value" exports to undermine the cohesiveness in Asian societies. They have the strength but we have the overwhelming numbers...

Fine...global warming is real...but the land is vast enough to accommodate if there's a strong wil to grow and coexist...i guess the dollah and cent (and sense) don't add up...plus no one is willing to risk throwing a dime or more into other's pocket...

Haizz...humanity...the Queen and many others have had seen enuf...good luck humanity, good luck earth😅😁 

In your great grandfather time, it is normal to have more than 1 wife.

There is a 10 years gap btw each wives.

Polygamy was outlawed due to western values.

[mersaylee]

19 minutes ago, inlinesix said:

In your great grandfather time, it is normal to have more than 1 wife.

There is a 10 years gap btw each wives.

Polygamy was outlawed due to western values.

Exactly...

[Jman888]

23 minutes ago, inlinesix said:

In your great grandfather time, it is normal to have more than 1 wife.

There is a 10 years gap btw each wives.

Polygamy was outlawed due to western values.

damn the democracy and freedom from the west 

[Ingenius]

If same sex relationship can be accepted, i don't see why open relationship cannot ?

Edited September 13, 2022 by Ingenius

[mersaylee]

27 minutes ago, Jman888 said:

damn the democracy and freedom from the west 

佳丽三千 ai mai? 😁

[Jman888]

20 minutes ago, mersaylee said:

佳丽三千 ai mai? 😁

you can keep them, i  心有余而力不足 

[1fast1]

1 hour ago, mersaylee said:

It's just one of the western "value" exports to undermine the cohesiveness in Asian societies. They have the strength but we have the overwhelming numbers...

Fine...global warming is real...but the land is vast enough to accommodate if there's a strong wil to grow and coexist...i guess the dollah and cent (and sense) don't add up...plus no one is willing to risk throwing a dime or more into other's pocket...

Haizz...humanity...the Queen and many others have had seen enuf...good luck humanity, good luck earth😅😁 

"Western" values meh? Ancient China had more than its fair share of concubines, mistresses, etc. leh. In fact, it was much more prevalent in the East than in the West, after the advent of Christendom. Men of status and power have always been accustomed, even expected, to collect women like trophies. We're just democratising the process in the modern age, haha.

Humans are animals. No more, no less. And the drive for polyamory is a biological fact for most. Myths like organised religion keep people pretending to virtue from time to time, but our instincts will always win out.

Humans, in fact, belong to the family of Great Apes. I recall a study that claimed that average penis size (against body mass or some other normalising metric) correlated positively with sexual promiscuity and inversely with partner/mate fidelity. So chimps with huge dicks relative to their body size are huge philanderers, whereas gorillas with teeny weenies relative to their humongous frames are very faithful to their partners. Humans are in the middle somewhere.

Monogamy as a social convention largely exists because it is convenient to rear children in a stable dual parent structure - the fact that many cuckolded men are rearing children not biologically their own is something society largely pretends to ignore. Human children are pretty helpless when they're born as physical limitations related to the birthing process means their heads (and brains) have a lot of growing to do ex-utero. Michael Crichton wrote something fairly eloquent along these lines in The Lost World (I think). But stable monogamous parenting is not the only viable model for good parenting - there are villages where communal upbringing is the norm. And even in Iceland, b**tardy is not a stigma and children of unwedded mothers are reared by an extended family, from what I've read.

Edited September 13, 2022 by Turboflat4

[mersaylee]

6 minutes ago, Jman888 said:

you can keep them, i  心有余而力不足 

You're so kind...i won't even have the heart for any of those high calibre strong heavy taste...😅

[Beregond]

 I only want to ask.

Are we moving backward. And follow our animals instinct and behave more like animals?

 

[1fast1]

1 minute ago, Beregond said:

 I only want to ask.

Are we moving backward. And follow our animals instinct and behave more like animals?

 

I only want to answer.

We ARE animals. We have always been. And many animal species are, as a rule, more faithful and monogamous than we are.

I think we're moving forward, by recognising these urges openly, rather than stigmatising them and sweeping them under the rug of faux propriety.

Edited September 13, 2022 by Turboflat4

[mersaylee]

30 minutes ago, Turboflat4 said:

"Western" values meh? Ancient China had more than its fair share of concubines, mistresses, etc. leh. In fact, it was much more prevalent in the East than in the West, after the advent of Christendom. Men of status and power have always been accustomed, even expected, to collect women like trophies. We're just democratising the process in the modern age, haha.

Humans are animals. No more, no less. And the drive for polyamory is a biological fact for most. Myths like organised religion keep people pretending to virtue from time to time, but our instincts will always win out.

Humans, in fact, belong to the family of Great Apes. I recall a study that claimed that average penis size (against body mass or some other normalising metric) correlated positively with sexual promiscuity and inversely with partner/mate fidelity. So chimps with huge dicks relative to their body size are huge philanderers, whereas gorillas with teeny weenies relative to their humongous frames are very faithful to their partners. Humans are in the middle somewhere.

Monogamy as a social convention largely exists because it is convenient to rear children in a stable dual parent structure - the fact that many cuckolded men are rearing children not biologically their own is something society largely pretends to ignore. Human children are pretty helpless when they're born as physical limitations related to the birthing process means their heads (and brains) have a lot of growing to do ex-utero. Michael Crichton wrote something fairly eloquent along these lines in The Lost World (I think). But stable monogamous parenting is not the only viable model for good parenting - there are villages where communal upbringing is the norm. And even in Iceland, b**tardy is not a stigma and children of unwedded mothers are reared by an extended family, from what I've read.

So true also...but I'm very faithful one despite sometimes have to leave the toilet door open as I pee from outside...not all toilet cubicles are big enuf...😁

[Windwaver]

4 hours ago, Turboflat4 said:

"Western" values meh? Ancient China had more than its fair share of concubines, mistresses, etc. leh. In fact, it was much more prevalent in the East than in the West, after the advent of Christendom. Men of status and power have always been accustomed, even expected, to collect women like trophies. We're just democratising the process in the modern age, haha.

Humans are animals. No more, no less. And the drive for polyamory is a biological fact for most. Myths like organised religion keep people pretending to virtue from time to time, but our instincts will always win out.

Humans, in fact, belong to the family of Great Apes. I recall a study that claimed that average penis size (against body mass or some other normalising metric) correlated positively with sexual promiscuity and inversely with partner/mate fidelity. So chimps with huge dicks relative to their body size are huge philanderers, whereas gorillas with teeny weenies relative to their humongous frames are very faithful to their partners. Humans are in the middle somewhere.

Monogamy as a social convention largely exists because it is convenient to rear children in a stable dual parent structure - the fact that many cuckolded men are rearing children not biologically their own is something society largely pretends to ignore. Human children are pretty helpless when they're born as physical limitations related to the birthing process means their heads (and brains) have a lot of growing to do ex-utero. Michael Crichton wrote something fairly eloquent along these lines in The Lost World (I think). But stable monogamous parenting is not the only viable model for good parenting - there are villages where communal upbringing is the norm. And even in Iceland, b**tardy is not a stigma and children of unwedded mothers are reared by an extended family, from what I've read.