End the marriage, save the relationship (NOC - Ryan & Sylvia)

[BabyBlade]

I'm not sure how many people here know Ryan & Sylvia from Night Owl Cinematics but I thought this was a meaningful and touching video to share. This is not about NOC but rather how a long time couple eventually came to a realisation that after 10 years of being together it's time to let go and eventually cope with their divorce. 

To those who are struggling in a relationship or marriage right now, at some point you'll have to realise that some people can stay in your heart, but not your life. And letting go will probably do the both of you more good than holding on. 

XOXO. 

[Mockngbrd]

Y u so emo? 

 

 

Also.  Yuck 

[Windwaver]

What happened to the dog huh?

[Lala81]

only watch food king. No interest in the rest.

[Spring]

I’m on the fence on divorces. I do agree that sometimes it’s better to let go whilst still possible then let it end bitterly.

That said, I belong to the old school that marriage is an institution. Couples got to work on their relationship consistently. It cannot be taken for granted or having the attitude of “aiyah married so long already, what’s that to work on”

In the old days of matchmaking, couples don’t even know each other n got married. One old lady I know in an arranged marriage said she learnt to love her husband n vice versa as they barely knew each other.

These days where couples go holiday whilst on courtship n even stay together before marriage means u really know each other inside out even before u tie the knot n I wonder whether this precipitates boredom earlier n means couples become lazy to work on their marriage, just my thoughts........

 

 

[Silver_blade]

23 minutes ago, Spring said:

.... I belong to the old school that marriage is an institution. Couples got to work on their relationship consistently. It cannot be taken for granted or having the attitude of “aiyah married so long already, what’s that to work on”........ couples become lazy to work on their marriage, just my thoughts........

 

 

I agree with you on this. I feel it is easy to stop working on the relationship while we are busy with kids and work.

[Jamesc]

28 minutes ago, Spring said:

 

That said, I belong to the old school that marriage is an institution.

 

Mental institution is also an institution.

Who wants to live in an institution?

You don't have to be mad to get married

But it sure helps.

[Jamesc]

The secret to happiness.

A couple don't need to sleep in the same bed.

A couple don't need to sleep in the same room.

And if no kids a couple don't need to sleep in the same home.

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Have couples who live apart discovered the secret to a happy relationship?

More and more partners are choosing to commit but not cohabit. What can we learn from them?

Living apart together (LAT) by choice is seen by sociologists as a new facet to an old arrangement. With new research showing that couples are increasingly likely to live in separate homes, what can people who cohabit learn from those who don’t?

The psychotherapist and broadcaster Lucy Beresford is the author of the book Happy Relationships. She thinks successful LAT relationships achieve a balance between independence and emotional commitment. “It allows for something called individuation,” she says. Some people might like a “calm space to go to, or a little meditation room” – a more extreme version of the garden shed bolt hole. But presumably some have more mundane wishes, such as a space where lids are replaced on bottles and jars, and the toilet flushed. Either way, living apart together “gives you breathing space”, she says.

Nurturing self-reliance is a skill that cohabitees can learn from those in LAT relationships. “When people complain, ‘My husband doesn’t support me’, or ‘My wife isn’t there for me emotionally’, those are very important observations in a relationship,” Beresford says. “But we must never expect someone else to rescue us. Emotionally, we need to be resilient. It’s the opposite of codependency and collapsing on your partner.”

Living apart together can make it easier to find breathing space in a relationship . . . . . . . . 

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/shortcuts/2020/jan/07/couples-living-apart-together-secret-to-happy-relationship 

 

 

[Vinceng]

One party was unfaithful to the other. Full stop.

[Hoseyboh]

26 minutes ago, Jamesc said:

Mental institution is also an institution.

Who wants to live in an institution?

You don't have to be mad to get married

But it sure helps.

Walau eh, I follow your advise leh.....

My wife is from a orphan institution leh...😭

No MIL leh....

[Jamesc]

9 minutes ago, Hoseyboh said:

Walau eh, I follow your advise leh.....

My wife is from a orphan institution leh...😭

No MIL leh....

You are a wise man.

[Jamesc]

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All the elements was right, we just got married at the wrong time.

Please don't make the same mistake as them.

Please consult a feng shui master to choose the right timing.

I am a feng shui master.

Discounts for MCF members, 50% off.

[SiLangKia]

13 minutes ago, Jamesc said:

You are a wise man.

Still trying to find an orphan as a gf, no luck, all the attractive ppl I know have tiger moms, I think I'll just die alone 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Jamesc]

11 minutes ago, SiLangKia said:

Still trying to find an orphan as a gf, no luck, all the attractive ppl I know have tiger moms, I think I'll just die alone 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I help you find.

Japan's Tsunami: Where Will the Orphans Go?

Days after the earth heaved and waves pummeled northern Japan, Western comment boards and blogs lit up over the fate of the tsunami's most vulnerable victims: the newly orphaned.

While an exact count of Japan's tsunami orphans is not yet available, more than 25,000 people are dead or unaccounted for in the island nation, and local experts predict that the toll may rise as high as 100,000. 

Now hundreds, if not thousands, of unclaimed children await aid in temporary shelters along the country's ravaged coastline, where, according to a British media report, the usual crayon and pencil sketches of youth have skewed toward eerie and macabre images of an angry sea.

This week, in response to the burgeoning orphan problem, Japan's Health, Welfare and Labor Ministry launched an official review, dispatching 400 case workers to count what the ministry fears could be a parentless population greater than from any recent domestic disaster.

[Hamburger]

A vow meant to be something. 

 

Take it seriously. 

[Mockngbrd]

5 minutes ago, Hamburger said:

A vow meant to be something. 

 

Take it seriously. 

Yah, don't need to make YouTube video trying to justify such things either. 

[Lala81]

Food King is really funny though. And i like their very local description of the food. Just average joes reviewing food.
Sometimes no holds barred.
Aiken Deekosh and Ryan.

 

 

Edited May 31, 2020 by Lala81

[Jamesc]

The social media generation.

Whatever they eat must show everybody.

Go holiday where also must show everybody.

Divorce also must make video tell everybody.