Voodooman Supersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Love is so hard to understand. You think you love someone but when you want reciprocity then it is just a transaction to me. If I want a transaction I know where to get it. I adopt dogs and they dun come with insurance cover. I undertake their risks, clear their shit, literally and dun expect them to earn anything nor give anything in return. And I am talking about a dog. If you can expect nothing from a dog, why should you expect more from your life partner. Isn't she more than a dog. No offence intended, just saying love is so misused. Most dun even get it. The comparison is not exactly appropriate, imho. Love is a journey, lust is at first sight. So picking the right person with the right characters and attributes (ability and willingness to love and ride it out with you, be it good or bad) to journey with you is the deal. Unconditional love comes later. ↡ Advertisement 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donut Supercharged November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 May not want to have kids. Meaning not going back in work force and not earning anything. Then the guy is marrying a liability. Simple as that. Now it's not only having to take care of her. The guy has to take care of HER family (in laws). Obviously they will look for him whenever they need money. I got a friend in this exact situation. Wife doesn't wan to work. Doesn't wan kids. So everyday she just stay at home do nothing. My friend is not earning much. Max $4k+ monthly. I even tried to intro some job offer to her. She declined, saying the job too difficult, and dunno what excuses. Mind you, she's not an idiot. A levels holder and worked in banks before. So sometimes when we see this frie, we sort of pity him. We told him, "it's your decision to marry her. So got to shoulder this responsibility. Wife doesn't even allow him to socialise. After work and on weekends, must keep her accompany. What kind of marriage is this? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Qpik Supercharged November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 actually women work and men stay at home make the most sense in Singapore given all the tax relief and working mother benefits and maternity leave etc my so shared same thots and asked when can retire. i said only if he can get a place in msia where he can go fishing everyday n stay there alone cos only then can my miserly peanuts sustain his cost of living in msia. n he can contribute by finding his own food :P Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wt_know Supersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 i want to marry a charbo making $12k i stay home MCF-ing ... can? 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fcw75 Hypersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Then the guy is marrying a liability. Simple as that. Now it's not only having to take care of her. The guy has to take care of HER family (in laws). Obviously they will look for him whenever they need money. I got a friend in this exact situation. Wife doesn't wan to work. Doesn't wan kids. So everyday she just stay at home do nothing. My friend is not earning much. Max $4k+ monthly. I even tried to intro some job offer to her. She declined, saying the job too difficult, and dunno what excuses. Mind you, she's not an idiot. A levels holder and worked in banks before. So sometimes when we see this frie, we sort of pity him. We told him, "it's your decision to marry her. So got to shoulder this responsibility. Wife doesn't even allow him to socialise. After work and on weekends, must keep her accompany. What kind of marriage is this? Don't get married the best. Just ask Staff69. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kusje Supersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 (edited) Then the guy is marrying a liability. Simple as that. Now it's not only having to take care of her. The guy has to take care of HER family (in laws). Obviously they will look for him whenever they need money. I got a friend in this exact situation. Wife doesn't wan to work. Doesn't wan kids. So everyday she just stay at home do nothing. My friend is not earning much. Max $4k+ monthly. I even tried to intro some job offer to her. She declined, saying the job too difficult, and dunno what excuses. Mind you, she's not an idiot. A levels holder and worked in banks before. So sometimes when we see this frie, we sort of pity him. We told him, "it's your decision to marry her. So got to shoulder this responsibility. Wife doesn't even allow him to socialise. After work and on weekends, must keep her accompany. What kind of marriage is this? curious. What does she do at home all day? For someone who makes 12k, the wife can still spend quite a fair bit but for someone making 4k, that's gotta be tough. btw, chio or not? If she ain't chio, I don't think your friend would have been so stupid? But then again, if she is super chio, she would have gone after our 12k per month TS instead of your friend Edited November 27, 2016 by Kusje Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lala81 Hypersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Love is so hard to understand. You think you love someone but when you want reciprocity then it is just a transaction to me. If I want a transaction I know where to get it. I adopt dogs and they dun come with insurance cover. I undertake their risks, clear their shit, literally and dun expect them to earn anything nor give anything in return. And I am talking about a dog. If you can expect nothing from a dog, why should you expect more from your life partner. Isn't she more than a dog. No offence intended, just saying love is so misused. Most dun even get it. We are talking about human beings. Not animals. Unconditional love is between parent and child. Even then we see many examples in the news whereby these relationships fail. There's no such thing as unconditional love between other human beings. If you cook a meal for your gf/wife and you don't expect reciprocation?? Even BFFs or sibling relationships are built on reciprocation. Dogs get the title of man's best friends for a reason. Then the guy is marrying a liability. Simple as that. Now it's not only having to take care of her. The guy has to take care of HER family (in laws). Obviously they will look for him whenever they need money. I got a friend in this exact situation. Wife doesn't wan to work. Doesn't wan kids. So everyday she just stay at home do nothing. My friend is not earning much. Max $4k+ monthly. I even tried to intro some job offer to her. She declined, saying the job too difficult, and dunno what excuses. Mind you, she's not an idiot. A levels holder and worked in banks before. So sometimes when we see this frie, we sort of pity him. We told him, "it's your decision to marry her. So got to shoulder this responsibility. Wife doesn't even allow him to socialise. After work and on weekends, must keep her accompany. What kind of marriage is this? My wife had an ex colleague also same situation. Willing man leecher woman. 3 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donut Supercharged November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 We are talking about human beings. Not animals. Unconditional love is between parent and child. Even then we see many examples in the news whereby these relationships fail. There's no such thing as unconditional love between other human beings. If you cook a meal for your gf/wife and you don't expect reciprocation?? Even BFFs or sibling relationships are built on reciprocation. Dogs get the title of man's best friends for a reason. My wife had an ex colleague also same situation. Willing man leecher woman. This phrase, love is blind, is real. Man doesn't use brain to think. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fuelsaver Supercharged November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Materialistic - no go. Equally no go are those who act cute and pretend not to be interested when in fact they're dying to get into the action. Those are kinda most annoying. And you see a ton of these nowadays Bro my thots r such - we may all be somewhat materialistic but to want to work to obtain material needs on own or together w partner vs solely depending on smone is very diff n puts a lot of stress on the working party esp when expectations r not aligned.. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voodooman Supersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 We are talking about human beings. Not animals. Unconditional love is between parent and child. Even then we see many examples in the news whereby these relationships fail. There's no such thing as unconditional love between other human beings. If you cook a meal for your gf/wife and you don't expect reciprocation?? Even BFFs or sibling relationships are built on reciprocation. Dogs get the title of man's best friends for a reason. Doc, you must be a parent but even that relationship is mostly one way. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Datsun366 Turbocharged November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 All Dogs go to Heaven. If you knew a Doc, you know it true. https://youtu.be/td7lCCO9aaQ Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lala81 Hypersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Doc, you must be a parent but even that relationship is mostly one way.Bring it forward lor. After being a parent, I know I don't love my parents as much as they love me if such things can be quantified. But I will love my kids in the same way as my parents loved me... That's why I feel only this comes close to unconditional love. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kia7200 5th Gear November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Then the guy is marrying a liability. Simple as that. Now it's not only having to take care of her. The guy has to take care of HER family (in laws). Obviously they will look for him whenever they need money. I got a friend in this exact situation. Wife doesn't wan to work. Doesn't wan kids. So everyday she just stay at home do nothing. My friend is not earning much. Max $4k+ monthly. I even tried to intro some job offer to her. She declined, saying the job too difficult, and dunno what excuses. Mind you, she's not an idiot. A levels holder and worked in banks before. So sometimes when we see this frie, we sort of pity him. We told him, "it's your decision to marry her. So got to shoulder this responsibility. Wife doesn't even allow him to socialise. After work and on weekends, must keep her accompany. What kind of marriage is this? This type of female r not unique. I think u will see such couple among ur group of friends. Mostly likely that guy nv had any gf before la. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jman888 Moderator November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 dun complaint ok! Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piyopico Supercharged November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 The comparison is not exactly appropriate, imho. Love is a journey, lust is at first sight. So picking the right person with the right characters and attributes (ability and willingness to love and ride it out with you, be it good or bad) to journey with you is the deal. Unconditional love comes later. I am just touching on the love part. TS says he loves her ma. Love is unconditional. With conditions, it is a transaction. Barter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinobii Hypersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 dun complaint ok! FB_IMG_1480222460939.jpg Lol...read this morning on fb, Jin funny but I don't like to wait too, punctuality is a virtue My time is precious so is other people time Don't waste other people time I am just touching on the love part. TS says he loves her ma. Love is unconditional. With conditions, it is a transaction. Barter. Love can fade with time too If Ts is suddenly out of job, financials can cause relationship/family breakdown 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
RadX Moderator November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Lol...read this morning on fb, Jin funny but I don't like to wait too, punctuality is a virtue My time is precious so is other people time Don't waste other people time Love can fade with time too If Ts is suddenly out of job, financials can cause relationship/family breakdown Thot you book old age hm In jb al? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinobii Hypersonic November 27, 2016 Share November 27, 2016 Thot you book old age hm In jb al? Same place as u r heading leh but your room is penthouse de, doggie one is the maid's room ↡ Advertisement 2 Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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