Suicide AGAIN

[LoneCatFish]

During my childhood time, there was once I got very ill, with high fever for many days, till I started to see random illusions. It was very suffering and I thought I was dying. It’s kind of funny to think about it now, but that’s beside the point. Through that experience, it made me realized that each of us is all alone in this universe. By the way, I am not a religious person, so I am talking from a very simple perspective.

 

We have people around who love us and care for us. However, the emotional support, nursing and caring are limited by what we can communicate through our language and the physical touch of our external body, that’s all. During the moment when we are fighting for survival of our own life, there’s no one else can really get into our soul to feel and see exactly what we are feeling, no matter how close and how much that person love us. That’s the moment we are all alone in this universe.

 

Just to share my thought, as all of us will need to face death one day, and probably that final extreme loneliness too, so be psychologically prepared.

[Hamburger]

 

thank you sir.

 

while we can't bear to let him go, we see his health going south day in day out also heart pain.

anyway, he is or was already 90 yr old. consider "good life" by many but he didn't enjoy much of his retirement yrs as he need to work beyond 75 yr old to support all 5 of us as he got married very late (almost 50).

 

anyway, we did spend some quality and meaningful time together in his later years.

I commiserate with your loss, but I believe his soul is resting in peace now.

[Yeshe]

 

My dad was like that also. after multiple strokes, was bedridden for almost 10 yrs. He pass away this Monday which I am sure he is in a better place now.....

 

May my daddy RIP.

 

Deepest condolences to you and your family bro.

Take care and I am sure your dad is in a better place now.

[Baal]

http://news.asiaone.com/news/singapore/witness-thought-she-was-towel

 

Witness thought she was a towel

080414_wanbao_faketowel.jpg

STUCK: The woman clung to railings outside her Sengkang flat.

Goh Yan Han

The New Paper

Thursday, Apr 10, 2014

SINGAPORE - While preparing breakfast in her kitchen, she spotted what looked like a large towel flapping outside her window.

 

It turned out to be an elderly woman standing on the 21st-storey corridor ledge of the opposite block - Block 441C, Fernvale Vista, in Sengkang.

 

Housewife Yani told Lianhe Wanbao that when the "towel" suddenly moved, she realised it was a woman about to jump.

 

The woman, dressed in purple, was hanging on to a railing above the ledge.

Shocked, Madam Yani rushed to her room and woke her husband before calling the police.

 

Police and Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF) officers then spent more than an hour persuading the woman to return to the corridor, while others prepared a lifepack on the ground.

Ms Cheyanne, who lives on the 21st storey of the opposite block - Block 445A - had just woken up around 10am when she noticed the woman.

 

'HOLD STILL'

 

"The police and SCDF officers were trying to coax her back in," said Ms Cheyanne, who declined to reveal her full name. She lives in the same block as Madam Yani.

 

"They were saying 'don't move' and 'hold still' because the woman had released her grip."

An officer, who had climbed onto the ledge, pulled the woman to safety.

Suicide figures here are sobering.

 

In 2012, the Samaritans of Singapore received 40,387 calls seeking intervention, compared to 37,752 the year before and 34,444 in 2000.

 

And figures over the years show an average of more than 400 people attempting suicide here every year. (See figures above.)

 

Is attempting suicide a cry for help?

 

No, said Madam Esther Ng, a psychotherapist in private practice.

 

"When suicide is being contemplated, it is when a person is giving up.

 

Suicide is not a way of getting attention," she said.

 

She said somebody who attempts suicide may be angry and is trying to punish someone.

Neighbours said the woman kept to herself. She lives with her son, his wife and their children.

Her son, who was clearing the area outside his flat with his two daughters when The New Paper visited yesterday evening, declined to comment.

 

Madam Ng said family support alone may not be enough to help people like the elderly woman.

She said: "Suicide cases normally arise in mental patients, or those with depression.

"They need to see a psychiatrist or psychologist. Medical help is very important."

 

After she was pulled to safety, the woman left with the police, reported Wanbao.

A relative was seen comforting the woman.

 

A police spokesman confirmed that an elderly woman had been arrested for attempted suicide.

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This article was published on April 8 in The New Paper.

 

Edited April 10, 2014 by Baal

[Solar]

生 老 病 死， 是 人 生 必 经 之 路， 多 行 善， 享 厚 福。

Once I saw a hidden video in MY about how the caregiver mistreated the old man, as if he's an animal.

The key is to grow old and go with dignity.. Which not many is able to.

Edited April 10, 2014 by Solar

[Tonyhawk2]

condolences.

 

lets not judge the dead.

 

nobody chooses death without reason.

 

and if one did, perhaps it was meant to be.

[Toothiewabbit]

http://news.asiaone.com/news/singapore/witness-thought-she-was-towel

 

Witness thought she was a towel

080414_wanbao_faketowel.jpg

STUCK: The woman clung to railings outside her Sengkang flat.

Goh Yan Han

The New Paper

Thursday, Apr 10, 2014

SINGAPORE - While preparing breakfast in her kitchen, she spotted what looked like a large towel flapping outside her window.

 

It turned out to be an elderly woman standing on the 21st-storey corridor ledge of the opposite block - Block 441C, Fernvale Vista, in Sengkang.

 

Housewife Yani told Lianhe Wanbao that when the "towel" suddenly moved, she realised it was a woman about to jump.

 

The woman, dressed in purple, was hanging on to a railing above the ledge.

Shocked, Madam Yani rushed to her room and woke her husband before calling the police.

 

Police and Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF) officers then spent more than an hour persuading the woman to return to the corridor, while others prepared a lifepack on the ground.

Ms Cheyanne, who lives on the 21st storey of the opposite block - Block 445A - had just woken up around 10am when she noticed the woman.

 

'HOLD STILL'

 

"The police and SCDF officers were trying to coax her back in," said Ms Cheyanne, who declined to reveal her full name. She lives in the same block as Madam Yani.

 

"They were saying 'don't move' and 'hold still' because the woman had released her grip."

An officer, who had climbed onto the ledge, pulled the woman to safety.

Suicide figures here are sobering.

 

In 2012, the Samaritans of Singapore received 40,387 calls seeking intervention, compared to 37,752 the year before and 34,444 in 2000.

 

And figures over the years show an average of more than 400 people attempting suicide here every year. (See figures above.)

 

Is attempting suicide a cry for help?

 

No, said Madam Esther Ng, a psychotherapist in private practice.

 

"When suicide is being contemplated, it is when a person is giving up.

 

Suicide is not a way of getting attention," she said.

 

She said somebody who attempts suicide may be angry and is trying to punish someone.

Neighbours said the woman kept to herself. She lives with her son, his wife and their children.

Her son, who was clearing the area outside his flat with his two daughters when The New Paper visited yesterday evening, declined to comment.

 

Madam Ng said family support alone may not be enough to help people like the elderly woman.

She said: "Suicide cases normally arise in mental patients, or those with depression.

"They need to see a psychiatrist or psychologist. Medical help is very important."

 

After she was pulled to safety, the woman left with the police, reported Wanbao.

A relative was seen comforting the woman.

 

A police spokesman confirmed that an elderly woman had been arrested for attempted suicide.

[email protected]

{C}

 

This article was published on April 8 in The New Paper.

 

Breaks my heart especially to see it is an elderly who decided to give up her life.

[Vega]

this area of Sengkang has afew cases of "airborne" already. I hope its not a "copy cat" situation.

[2BDriver]

Once I saw a hidden video in MY about how the caregiver mistreated the old man, as if he's an animal.

The key is to grow old and go with dignity.. Which not many is able to.

If the childrens are not concern about their parents well being, the major fault lies on the parental teachings when they are young

this area of Sengkang has afew cases of "airborne" already. I hope its not a "copy cat" situation.

Really makes me sad to see these pityful peoples choose to go in this way

[Celicar]

True that there is a cause and effect, but I think there can be other major causes, not just upbringing. By extension, any fault of the child can be argued to be failure by the parent to teach properly when young. I for one certainly don't blame my parents for any of my shortcomings.

 

If the childrens are not concern about their parents well being, the major fault lies on the parental teachings when they are young

 

[2BDriver]

True that there is a cause and effect, but I think there can be other major causes, not just upbringing. By extension, any fault of the child can be argued to be failure by the parent to teach properly when young. I for one certainly don't blame my parents for any of my shortcomings.

 

 

I ever once talked to a close relatives why she is not taking care of her loving mother, her answer to me is "financial difficulties", I told her if it's me that ran into bankruptcy and become pennyless, I will be a begger on the street to beg food for parent without hesitation.

[Vega]

I ever once talked to a close relatives why she is not taking care of her loving mother, her answer to me is "financial difficulties", I told her if it's me that ran into bankruptcy and become pennyless, I will be a begger on the street to beg food for parent without hesitation.

 

"financial difficulties" could be just an excuse. The real reason could be in their relationship.

unless we live and grow up with her family, we will never how is her relationship with her mom.

[Chickenfarm]

If the childrens are not concern about their parents well being, the major fault lies on the parental teachings when they are young

Really makes me sad to see these pityful peoples choose to go in this way

 

Bro...you are indeed very fortunate that you are self sufficient...unlike the most of us

[Evillusion]

 

"financial difficulties" could be just an excuse. The real reason could be in their relationship.

unless we live and grow up with her family, we will never how is her relationship with her mom.

no matter what still its own parent.....Its the doorway to heaven (according to my religion) especially if its the mother. No matter what still own parents....serious issue!

[Knoobie]

Madam Ng said family support alone may not be enough to help people like the elderly woman.

She said: "Suicide cases normally arise in mental patients, or those with depression.

"They need to see a psychiatrist or psychologist. Medical help is very important."

Most importantly is emotional support... no emotional support see psychiatrist or phsychologist also no use...

 

I seriously don't understand how medical could be so important in helping one that attempted suicide... medicine can change the way he/she thinks meh..

 

positive encouragement to in this case should be above everything else..

[Vega]

no matter what still its own parent.....Its the doorway to heaven (according to my religion) especially if its the mother. No matter what still own parents....serious issue!

 

what if since young, the mother did not discharge her duty as a mother? gamble everyday or take drugs? never take care of the family.

do you think the kids will have a positive feeling for the mom?

 

that is why I said earlier, if we didn't live or grow up with the family, we never know what they gone thru.

[Chucky2007]

My block got a primary school boy jumper. Down from 5th floor kitchen window.

 

My neighbouring blocks got a further 2 jumpers. All not reported.

your neighborhood so tragic... Is it bec u keep terrorising them?

[Evillusion]

 

what if since young, the mother did not discharge her duty as a mother? gamble everyday or take drugs? never take care of the family.

do you think the kids will have a positive feeling for the mom?

 

that is why I said earlier, if we didn't live or grow up with the family, we never know what they gone thru.

somebody i am close is in the same situation you mentioned but this one both parents left them high and dry! Both sibling treat their mom fairly....give her money and the brother even took her in. Good thing is they dont bring in the past but sometimes i can see they are hurt previously. The son even gave the father pocket money when he comes visiting. This 2 siblings spent their childhood days broke with no money even for school....both dropped out of school but the brother is doing rather well through perseverence and they never look down on their parents....i respect them for that! Edited April 10, 2014 by Eviilusion