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I Will Sleep With Your Boyfriend And This Is How It Will Happen



I will meet him somewhere neutral: a coffee shop, a bar, a bookstore.



I will be cute, but in the way that you never are. With a light sundress that grazes the mid-thigh and a smile that says, “It’s okay, you can talk to me, I don’t bite.” Lately, you have been stressed with work and errands and family problems — you have forgotten that layer of sex appeal that you used to lacquer on before your dates together, the way it used to glimmer in the light and catch his attention from across the room.



He is not a bad person, and neither are you. Times are just difficult and everything loses its shine after a while. The first time he will touch me, his hands will burn because they are still used to the temperature of your body.



When he talks to me in the coffee shop, or the bar, or the bookstore, he will have forgotten how to talk to girls. What once used to come naturally to him, a language he felt he had created himself, will now be stilted and uncomfortable. Everything, he thinks, is going to be a giveaway that he already has a girlfriend and that he shouldn’t be doing this. I already know, of course, but that’s part of why I want him. That’s most of why I want him. He will edge around what he really wants to say, and I will brush my hand against his forearm and he will remember that it wasn’t words at all.



When we go back to my apartment, everything will look different to him, and different has replaced actual sex appeal as the most attractive thing in his world. In my apartment, there are no problems. There are no fights. There is no going to bed in some ugly tee shirt and forgetting to touch one another because you have better things to do, such as play around on your phone. Everything in my apartment will be for pleasure and for now. There won’t be any more complicated subtext.



My friends ask me why I always go for men who are in relationships. I tell them that I don’t know, but that there is something about all the sneaking around they have to do which makes me feel special and rare. I know that it means I am a secret that they need to keep hidden, but the more childish part of me still thinks that secrets are special. I don’t know. Maybe it’s because I know that it can never work, and I don’t really want it to.



As soon as our f**king becomes like the sporadic encounters he has with you, as soon as it carries with it even the slightest note of drudgery or repetition or obligation, he will leave. He will make up a reason and go back to you, a cleansed man who will probably find someone new to replace the monotony with. He thinks that I thought he would leave you, but I knew he wouldn’t. They never do. You are his mother, in many ways, and will one day be the mother of his children. I am a placeholder in the shape of a vagina. Madonna and whore.



You think that he cheated on you because you weren’t hot enough. That’s not true. He cheated because he was the kind of man who cheats, and I sought him out because I like men like that. They thrill me even in the predictability of their deception. You let your love run cold, yes, but only in the way that humans do. A more decent man would have stayed with you through the tougher times, stayed honest, and worked with you on building something that can create sexiness in its stability. He would have found you both comfortable and exciting, because he would be capable of seeing more than one facet of your humanity.



You would be better off without him.



I will sleep with him by reminding him of everything he can no longer have with you, and I will lose him by showing him that, after the warmth of the first couple of f**ks dies down, I am just like you are. I am just another partner who gets colds and looks messy in the morning and snores after drinking and argues with her mother over the phone. I will sleep with him as a pixie, and I will lose him as a human.



Source: http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2013/10/i-will-sleep-with-your-boyfriend-and-this-is-how-it-will-happen/#cOpf5AqHVsIQvPRC.01



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Came across this article and found it interesting.



Provoking words to many, thought provoking to me, but beautifully written by the author at the same time. I can't fathom how a girl would want to be the third party in a relationship, nobody in the right frame of mind would want to be. One cannot prevent yourself from falling in love (even with a attached/married man), but to deliberately want to pursue a attached/married man, that is something.



Is this solely the fault of the woman? If the men in question were faithful enough, would she get her chance to exploit him?



Who is the real cheater here? The man who cheats on his girlfriend/wife with another woman? Or the woman who uses her sexual appeal to hook the attached man? Just some food for thought, and I'm sure a common phenomenon in today's world.


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Hotshot85

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Usually, one party cheats because either:

a) The spark is gone liao, the relationship feels like its another 9-5 kind of job where you're just waiting to pang kang.

 

b) Wanting the thrill of stepping on 2 boats or more at the same time.

 

Usually point A more often than point B, but thats all my own opinion of course :D

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  On 2/14/2014 at 9:58 AM, BabyBlade said:

 

Is this solely the fault of the woman? If the men in question were faithful enough, would she get her chance to exploit him?

Who is the real cheater here? The man who cheats on his girlfriend/wife with another woman? Or the woman who uses her sexual appeal to hook the attached man? Just some food for thought, and I'm sure a common phenomenon in today's world.

 

 

Are you thinking of doing it? If so then are you pretty? If you are pretty then please hook me. I can pretend to be married even though no one wants me [laugh]

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I forgot that MCF guys are visual and graphic humans and will not entertain any story that last for more than the usual three "F&F" words.

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  On 2/14/2014 at 12:20 PM, Hotshot85 said:

Usually, one party cheats because either:

 

a) The spark is gone liao, the relationship feels like its another 9-5 kind of job where you're just waiting to pang kang.

 

b) Wanting the thrill of stepping on 2 boats or more at the same time.

 

Usually point A more often than point B, but thats all my own opinion of course :D

Ironically what keeps a relationship or marriage last is not always the initial attraction or spark. It's the same for honeymoon period. Give it max 6 months and the relationship starts becoming a routine. You start getting comfortable with each other, you know what's his favorite food, movies, you know his social circle better, the same food, same bed, same sex life. The element of surprise is removed and your relationship is being put on the test. You start making statements like "We've been together for X years and you still don't know what's my favorite XXXXXX?" Such statements can be damaging and hurtful in the long run because there's when expectations leads to disappointments.

 

This is where commitment and being faithful and loyal to your partner takes the place of love, attraction and lust (esp for relationships above 2-3 years). Are you able to withstand the temptation of having a new exciting and possibly highly attractive new woman in your life? The prospects of cheating must be alluring for many guys at this stage.

  On 2/14/2014 at 3:05 PM, Porker said:

 

Are you thinking of doing it? If so then are you pretty? If you are pretty then please hook me. I can pretend to be married even though no one wants me [laugh]

Aren't you my clone?

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  On 2/15/2014 at 12:13 AM, BabyBlade said:

This is where commitment and being faithful and loyal to your partner takes the place of love, attraction and lust (esp for relationships above 2-3 years). Are you able to withstand the temptation of having a new exciting and possibly highly attractive new woman in your life? The prospects of cheating must be alluring for many guys at this stage.

 

Fully agree. Am sure I speak for many males when I say once you are already in a relationship or marriage, there'll always be someone out there that tempts us and gets us thinking "What if ...". That's where the test comes in, can we uphold our promise to love only that significant other?

 

I hope you're not having V-day blues or anything hehe :ph34r:

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IMO talk c0ck lah. See Tigerwoods. "Just do it!" [grin]

 

See Tigerwoods after getting caught. KNS.

 

If cannot control kkj better dun get commited or worse get married. Save yourself the trouble.

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