Bystander50 5th Gear July 21, 2011 Share July 21, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 6:43 AM, Jamstart said: I tried caning, scolding and threatening (like throw her out of the house), she was scared then. After half an hour later, everything forgotten and back to normal again. If she is a boy, I can understand or accept. But.... How old is your kid? Is she drinking Anfa milk? ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Itsec 2nd Gear July 21, 2011 Share July 21, 2011 (edited) my daughter also hyper active.. she's only N2..and kena stand at the corners with the boys... haiz... only when i bring out the cane.. she toned down..and watch TV.. after a while, forget about the whole incident and start again.. Edited July 21, 2011 by Itsec Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoverofCar 6th Gear July 21, 2011 Share July 21, 2011 Hear hypnosis session helps in making the kid stable down...Can check with some children behavior clinic Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluethorn Neutral Newbie July 21, 2011 Share July 21, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 12:40 PM, Itsec said: my daughter also hyper active.. she's only N2..and kena stand at the corners with the boys... haiz... only when i bring out the cane.. she toned down..and watch TV.. after a while, forget about the whole incident and start again.. The key word is 'TV' - too much of it, they develop short attention spans, and wander around causing trouble. Need to find out which activity they like - cars, playground, colouring etc... and rotate through this group of activities in a schedule. And setting clear limits helps - they need to know the consequences of their behaviour (ie withhold favourite toy, tv, etc). Sometimes caning not so effective as withholding a privilege for a few hours to a day. And need to set aside time (20-30min per day at least) to spend time doing something with them that reinforces their attention. Like building lego blocks with them, or reading bedtime stories etc. Let them know they can have extra playtime or extra story if they can be good and sit quietly for a while doing tabletop activities. It takes some time to work out a routine that suits you both, but don't give up, they may continue to plague you with bad behaviour for a while. Also look into whether they are having enough sleep at night - too little reduces concentration in the day. Are they getting enough calories to keep them going through the day too - being hungry in the evening is not likely to result in good behaviour. Sometimes they get a sugary snack at 3pm, and the next meal is at 7 or 8 - might be a little too long and result in lack of blood sugar instead. Or even vitamin deficiencies - this you can get your doctor to check her out. Certain vitamin deficiencies result in attention deficit disorder, and are very easily corrected with multivites. Hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Itsec 2nd Gear July 21, 2011 Share July 21, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 1:25 PM, Bluethorn said: The key word is 'TV' - too much of it, they develop short attention spans, and wander around causing trouble. Need to find out which activity they like - cars, playground, colouring etc... and rotate through this group of activities in a schedule. And setting clear limits helps - they need to know the consequences of their behaviour (ie withhold favourite toy, tv, etc). Sometimes caning not so effective as withholding a privilege for a few hours to a day. And need to set aside time (20-30min per day at least) to spend time doing something with them that reinforces their attention. Like building lego blocks with them, or reading bedtime stories etc. Let them know they can have extra playtime or extra story if they can be good and sit quietly for a while doing tabletop activities. It takes some time to work out a routine that suits you both, but don't give up, they may continue to plague you with bad behaviour for a while. Also look into whether they are having enough sleep at night - too little reduces concentration in the day. Are they getting enough calories to keep them going through the day too - being hungry in the evening is not likely to result in good behaviour. Sometimes they get a sugary snack at 3pm, and the next meal is at 7 or 8 - might be a little too long and result in lack of blood sugar instead. Or even vitamin deficiencies - this you can get your doctor to check her out. Certain vitamin deficiencies result in attention deficit disorder, and are very easily corrected with multivites. Hope this helps. thanks for the advises.. i will give it a go Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 12:07 PM, Bystander50 said: How old is your kid? Is she drinking Anfa milk? She is P1 this year, drinks MY Dumex 6yo. Sometimes I wonder is it the boleh milk that causes her like that. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 1:25 PM, Bluethorn said: The key word is 'TV' - too much of it, they develop short attention spans, and wander around causing trouble. Need to find out which activity they like - cars, playground, colouring etc... and rotate through this group of activities in a schedule. And setting clear limits helps - they need to know the consequences of their behaviour (ie withhold favourite toy, tv, etc). Sometimes caning not so effective as withholding a privilege for a few hours to a day. And need to set aside time (20-30min per day at least) to spend time doing something with them that reinforces their attention. Like building lego blocks with them, or reading bedtime stories etc. Let them know they can have extra playtime or extra story if they can be good and sit quietly for a while doing tabletop activities. It takes some time to work out a routine that suits you both, but don't give up, they may continue to plague you with bad behaviour for a while. Also look into whether they are having enough sleep at night - too little reduces concentration in the day. Are they getting enough calories to keep them going through the day too - being hungry in the evening is not likely to result in good behaviour. Sometimes they get a sugary snack at 3pm, and the next meal is at 7 or 8 - might be a little too long and result in lack of blood sugar instead. Or even vitamin deficiencies - this you can get your doctor to check her out. Certain vitamin deficiencies result in attention deficit disorder, and are very easily corrected with multivites. Hope this helps. I think so too. TV maybe the culprit. Yesterday evening, she made me so mad till I ban her from watching it. :angry: Sometimes, I am so mad till I am afraid that my wife or maid will report me for child abuse. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bystander50 5th Gear July 22, 2011 Share July 22, 2011 On 7/22/2011 at 5:41 AM, Jamstart said: She is P1 this year, drinks MY Dumex 6yo. Sometimes I wonder is it the boleh milk that causes her like that. My girl is 2.5 yrs old now, been drinking Anfa since birth. And she is very very active, basically non stop moving and jumping ard. At 2, we stopped giving her Anfa and switched to Pediasure. She has since tone down a lot, so i just guess it's the milk powder doing it's tricks. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 9:24 AM, Jamesc said: Too much energy, let them do house work. Cannot sleep at nite, give them school text book to read. If she reads, I will be more than happy. Usually, she will play and watch TV for hours and when it comes to study, 15min dunno have or not. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 9:20 AM, Babyckh said: Just curious, does your son had 2 "zhng" on top of his head? Dont get this bro?? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/22/2011 at 5:46 AM, Bystander50 said: My girl is 2.5 yrs old now, been drinking Anfa since birth. And she is very very active, basically non stop moving and jumping ard. At 2, we stopped giving her Anfa and switched to Pediasure. She has since tone down a lot, so i just guess it's the milk powder doing it's tricks. So big "effect"? Local milk? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kurty Supercharged July 22, 2011 Share July 22, 2011 TS, tried to bring her to some church school. myself is a Buddhist, just drop mine at church school whereby some, offer tuition class. during the class, they even have character building. couple of weeks and it works. patience is the key.. ban TV.. no behave, no treats not to be mean but have to teach them who Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rainbowbiatch 6th Gear July 22, 2011 Share July 22, 2011 On 7/22/2011 at 5:53 AM, Jamstart said: Dont get this bro?? the top of the head, wher the general center growth of hair.. if u see two of the it, means kid very naughty.. old saying.. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/21/2011 at 9:52 AM, Amuze said: http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoole...-addadhd-myths/ http://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-he...ding/index.aspx Very good reference. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/22/2011 at 5:55 AM, Kurty said: TS, tried to bring her to some church school. myself is a Buddhist, just drop mine at church school whereby some, offer tuition class. during the class, they even have character building. couple of weeks and it works. patience is the key.. ban TV.. no behave, no treats not to be mean but have to teach them who Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 On 7/22/2011 at 5:58 AM, Rainbowbiatch said: the top of the head, wher the general center growth of hair.. if u see two of the it, means kid very naughty.. old saying.. Ic, she has a high forehead, about these 2 "zhng", I need to go find it out. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rainbowbiatch 6th Gear July 22, 2011 Share July 22, 2011 On 7/22/2011 at 6:08 AM, Jamstart said: Ic, she has a high forehead, about these 2 "zhng", I need to go find it out. i oso high forehead.. [laugh] kok-tao... opps.. OT.. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamstart 1st Gear July 22, 2011 Author Share July 22, 2011 (edited) One thing about yesterday night, I warned her that if she got mistake for her spelling in her tuition class, I will cane her hand 2 times for every single correction. As a result, she had 2 mistakes, meaning 4 stroke of canes. I asked her to choose between a cane and a metal ruler and she chose the cane. After caning, half hour later, she came back to me and asked me to cane her again. I asked her why?? She said she didnt feel the pain. Knn, faint. Edited July 22, 2011 by Jamstart ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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