Married yet, single yet...

[Jj5599]

  On 7/16/2011 at 8:32 AM, Sabbie said:

Why some of my frens are married but having affairs, screwing around and yet I am a good guy but still single....I don't understand, nice guys finish last..

 

Bro, trust me. Wait till you find the right gal. If she doesn't come, please stay single and get a dog. Or find a surrogate mother and have a child.

[Meanmachine]

I've know of a few beautiful and sexy married women who goes aftr successful & capable man like Wall street, Mike Douglas, well not n that category

but almost alike but different field.

 

He was tall, yellow-skined, mancho and extremely well-liked by all, in his role, he was the head of Sales dept, he doesnt boss around but his instruction were straight/direct to the point, the guys juz go out and get the sales, the ladies didn't get the sales target, they goes for the man wif power/ and a lady man.

 

He was happily married wif kids too, so why are the women fighting for him? everyday they fought for his attention, with thick-makeup/high heels and low-cut top, all clamouring for his attention, of course the guys took noticed, but what can they do?

 

Whether the ladies got their men, we juz wait and see . . . Sooner or later, we say to ourself, " The cat will finally eat the fish place right on front of him. " Juz U wait & see.

 

Who bait who? Yr call . . .

[Watwheels]

  On 7/16/2011 at 8:32 AM, Sabbie said:

Why some of my frens are married but having affairs, screwing around and yet I am a good guy but still single....I don't understand, nice guys finish last..

If you are not married how would you understand? After you get married you will know the answer lor.

 

And pls for goodness sake, stop thinking you are a nice guy. Usually ppl who say themselves are nice guys are exactly the opposite.

 

After you get married and can still keep your dick in your pants until you reach 80, dan you can call yourself a nice guy.

 

SMLJ nice guy? Once you have tasted the forbidden fruit you will want more. When your wife is pregnant she can't always satisfy you and once she has given birth she will be so occupied with her baby and job she will have no time for you. And that's where the challenge, urges and temptations comes. That will explain what had happen to your friend.

[Vid]

  On 7/16/2011 at 11:17 AM, Sabbie said:

Ok I am saying this because my good fren is married to a beautiful wife has a kid and second one on the way, he is successful and earns 450k a year and drives a rare and exotic car but he is thinking of giving it up for another woman I feel sorry for the wife as although she is also a capable woman in her own right, I can't imagine the anguish she will go though if it really happens

 

The richer he is, the more pretty girls will swarm him. Very hard for him to resist

[Sabbie]

  On 7/16/2011 at 12:26 PM, Celicar said:

Perhaps you are 1 man gang because you're concerned about, shall we say, not-the-most-important things. You should just evalute the girl for who she is, if she was sleeping around then it's another story, but she shared a bed with her husband.

No, I don't mind that she is an indecent woman but can you marry a woman who was married to your fren and have a kid together? wouldn't your mind capture the image of your fren while bonking her? I had a gf whom got married to my best fren of cos no longer and they are just totally ignoring me now and making me out to the bad guy who cannot accept them being together whereas it's more them cannot accept the fact that i screwed her and dumped her before

[Sabbie]

  On 7/16/2011 at 3:15 PM, Vid said:

The richer he is, the more pretty girls will swarm him. Very hard for him to resist

 

The girl is also quite rich and independent, I think it's more of him jio-ing the girl rather than the other way

[Sabbie]

  On 7/16/2011 at 3:05 PM, Watwheels said:

If you are not married how would you understand? After you get married you will know the answer lor.

 

And pls for goodness sake, stop thinking you are a nice guy. Usually ppl who say themselves are nice guys are exactly the opposite.

 

After you get married and can still keep your dick in your pants until you reach 80, dan you can call yourself a nice guy.

 

SMLJ nice guy? Once you have tasted the forbidden fruit you will want more. When your wife is pregnant she can't always satisfy you and once she has given birth she will be so occupied with her baby and job she will have no time for you. And that's where the challenge, urges and temptations comes. That will explain what had happen to your friend.

 

I admit I am not exactly a good guy too and I have my share of screwing around, but I think I keep it within limits and without getting emotionally entangled basically just f and forget...physical cheating is a lesser evil compared to emotional cheating imo....but I mean he has everything, money, a good family, etc etc and he wants to give it all up becos of a woman

[Sabbie]

  On 7/16/2011 at 1:58 PM, KARTer said:

pple like bill clinton fooling around and their wives either become heartbroken or become indifferent.... the wives may start doing the same, or simply give up and move ahead with their own lives and treat their hushands as something like just a piece of furniture at home....

the 'other' womean may also dump him at the end of the day

 

I know, that's why i am advising him not to do anything stupid, but he says that he doesn't mind paying alimony and giving up half his assets....i also told him that is no guarantee this other woman will be with him forever and he will not get sick of her one day too....but end of the day i told him i will support him as a brudder no matter what

[Sabbie]

  On 7/16/2011 at 9:17 AM, Friendstar said:

i did have affairs before.

 

with a FHM girl in her late twenties.

 

very hard to kick the habit not meeting her for quickie.

yeah alot of these so called fhm gals are attention seekers and wants fame and money, I would not think they are the epitome of morality but some sure are hot also some also cmi....so great job in laying her!

[Sabbie]

  On 7/16/2011 at 1:02 PM, Ender said:

But it seems some don't learn from mistake, keeps on falling for the one 'bad' boy after another.. Maybe they just like that bad boy image.

 

Alot of women are like that, their own insecurities make them go for the so called bad boy and they just get cheated boy after boy, well all I can say is that they deserve it

[KARTer]

  On 7/16/2011 at 3:58 PM, Sabbie said:

I know, that's why i am advising him not to do anything stupid, but he says that he doesn't mind paying alimony and giving up half his assets....i also told him that is no guarantee this other woman will be with him forever and he will not get sick of her one day too....but end of the day i told him i will support him as a brudder no matter what

Less is more..... in terms of emotions, keeping it simple (for married persons:- one-wife, one-husband) so that our life wont get too complicated.... IMO there are many other things in life to explore and enjoy... sports, cars, hobbies, last but not least: work..... also, women can be 'complicated', one is enough.

 

Of course, we need to shop around and then 'take' one at the end of the day. Once taken, no need to complicate life and let 3rd party mess things up.

[Sabbie]

  On 7/16/2011 at 4:11 PM, KARTer said:

Less is more..... in terms of emotions, keeping it simple (for married persons:- one-wife, one-husband) so that our life wont get too complicated.... IMO there are many other things in life to explore and enjoy... sports, cars, hobbies, last but not least: work..... also, women can be 'complicated', one is enough.

 

Of course, we need to shop around and then 'take' one at the end of the day. Once taken, no need to complicate life and let 3rd party mess things up.

 

I think he is too bored with his life and is seeking excitement, call it a one third life crisis or what, after achieving so much, he feels that he needs something new in his life....for me i am struggling with life so no time to tink of love and marriage, not ready yet

 

I got another fren, got two kids, going china for a fug trip, sigh...this is why i think i better not marry since I am also prone to such things although I am mild compared to them

[Celicar]

  On 7/16/2011 at 3:52 PM, Sabbie said:

No, I don't mind that she is an indecent woman but can you marry a woman who was married to your fren and have a kid together? wouldn't your mind capture the image of your fren while bonking her? I had a gf whom got married to my best fren of cos no longer and they are just totally ignoring me now and making me out to the bad guy who cannot accept them being together whereas it's more them cannot accept the fact that i screwed her and dumped her before

I have this impression that you think any girl who has slept with anyone in your group of friends (including yourself) is somehow not as acceptable anymore. I personally think you have to consider a girl on many factors, perhaps this is the most critical criteria to you, no right or wrong.

 

As for your ex-gf and your best friend, I think they can accept that, in your words "screwed her and dumped her before", because they are together now. Whether they want to hang out with you, that is another matter altogether.

 

Anyway, just a difference in opinion I guess.

[Icedbs]

  On 7/16/2011 at 12:04 PM, Sabbie said:

I can't imagine screwing a woman my fren screwed before, I dun know why some people can

 

Dude, you don't have to understand why people do this or that...or why your fren is leaving her. Those are beyond your control.

 

But you can decide what you want to do.

 

If you truly have feelings for this woman, then accept her as who she is, regardless of her background. You don't have to care what your fren think of you.....your focus should be her..not him.

 

If you don't have feelings for her, then just leave them alone. Domestic issues are hard to understand, and often, you can't get both side of the story fairly.

 

 

[Jman888]

go be a monk

[Ladykillerz]

  On 7/16/2011 at 2:12 PM, Jj5599 said:

Bro, trust me. Wait till you find the right gal. If she doesn't come, please stay single and get a dog. Or find a surrogate mother and have a child.

 

no wonder i got a dog?

[Joemit7850]

  On 7/16/2011 at 11:17 AM, Sabbie said:

Ok I am saying this because my good fren is married to a beautiful wife has a kid and second one on the way, he is successful and earns 450k a year and drives a rare and exotic car but he is thinking of giving it up for another woman I feel sorry for the wife as although she is also a capable woman in her own right, I can't imagine the anguish she will go though if it really happens

woo. i think i am more interested in what job he is doing???? 37.5k monthly

[Wreckwrx]

  On 7/16/2011 at 8:32 AM, Sabbie said:

Why some of my frens are married but having affairs, screwing around and yet I am a good guy but still single....I don't understand, nice guys finish last..

 

These are two very different matters actually...... one is about having the thrill of being able to get away with something w/o being caught and the other is really about meeting the right gal.......

 

With regards to the thrill of having an affair, I personally feel that every man yearns for such a thrill and it's called "Fantasizing"..

It is just that some men will attempt to live out their fantasy (hence resulting in the affair happening) while for others, it just remains nothing but a wet dream.....

 

As for meeting the right gal...... my only advice is to stop fantasizing so much and for goodness sake, go out and start speaking to real girls (be it whether they are married or not)....