Son who doesn't fetch parent to stay with him is a bad son?

[Thargor]

I been told for countless times that I am a bad son.....because I don't fetch my mum to stay with me (she's alone after my eldest sis passed away and my dad is working overseas). My wife can't get along with my mum.

 

I been told I am a bad husband for suggesting to fetch my mum to stay with me.

 

I been told I am a bad husband and bad son for deciding that since I can't please everyone, I am just going to choose the option that is best for my kid...and hopefully they do turn out to be the best for my kid.

 

Hehe my white hairs getting a lot nowadays...(I like it though)...

 

Anyone here choose not to allow parents to stay with him cos wifey couldnt get along with your parents?

[Dj_spike]

Yes, u would go down to the category of a bad son imo

 

You would wanna perhaps intermediate between ur mum and ur wife.... Ur wife jolly knows u are eldest son b4 marrying u...

 

U can have alot of wives(divorce and marry) but u only have one mother all ur life

 

[Benarsenal]

It's like that filial piety thing all over again.

 

Do what YOU think is right.

[Joseph22]

  On 7/30/2010 at 4:45 AM, Dj_spike said:

Yes, u would go down to the category of a bad son imo

 

You would wanna perhaps intermediate between ur mum and ur wife.... Ur wife jolly knows u are eldest son b4 marrying u...

 

U can have alot of wives(divorce and marry) but u only have one mother all ur life

 

that is why we must QC the wife to see if they are willing to leave with MiL before getting married.

[Thargor]

  On 7/30/2010 at 4:45 AM, Dj_spike said:

Yes, u would go down to the category of a bad son imo

 

You would wanna perhaps intermediate between ur mum and ur wife.... Ur wife jolly knows u are eldest son b4 marrying u...

 

U can have alot of wives(divorce and marry) but u only have one mother all ur life

 

quite impossible to intermediate...i kinda do what I can already. Nowadays just fetch my mum over for dinner/lunch...she gets to play with baby...afterwhich I send her back.

 

I am just thinking...my kid deserve a happy family...my wife rather get a divorce than to stay with my mum...and i need to do whats best for my kid.

 

Hard choices to make, and those are choices one need to make and make peace with from within.

[Joseph22]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:01 AM, Thargor said:

quite impossible to intermediate...i kinda do what I can already. Nowadays just fetch my mum over for dinner/lunch...she gets to play with baby...afterwhich I send her back.

 

I am just thinking...my kid deserve a happy family...my wife rather get a divorce than to stay with my mum...and i need to do whats best for my kid.

 

Hard choices to make, and those are choices one need to make and make peace with from within.

 

 

pardon me for saying. but your wife got a problem

[Ordix]

[Dj_spike]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:05 AM, Joseph22 said:

pardon me for saying. but your wife got a problem

 

For the first time, I agree with u

[Galantspeedz]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:01 AM, Thargor said:

quite impossible to intermediate...i kinda do what I can already. Nowadays just fetch my mum over for dinner/lunch...she gets to play with baby...afterwhich I send her back.

 

I am just thinking...my kid deserve a happy family...my wife rather get a divorce than to stay with my mum...and i need to do whats best for my kid.

 

Hard choices to make, and those are choices one need to make and make peace with from within.

 

interesting.... her hate for your mum is more than the love for you.....

[Freestylers09]

this one good..i like

 

[Joseph22]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:07 AM, Dj_spike said:

For the first time, I agree with u

 

 

another one. you not first time liao lah. today maybe :angry:

 

make me look so bad

[RadX]

I kinda empathise with TS now that these issues are cropping up. Really....i see that these are just the surface of something fundamentally deeper and having him to juggle those roles can be a b!tch....these may just be outpouring as a silent internal cry from within...hmmmm...

 

Take it easy man, and my earlier statements are fully retracted with apologies and hope you do find peace within. Chill and look for inner strength

[RadX]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:09 AM, Joseph22 said:

another one. you not first time liao lah. today maybe :angry:

 

make me look so bad

 

 

eh you veri popular today har....basket....can form gay boy club ah....now to get Krado to praise you [laugh]

[Skunk]

so what if someone is a bad son. So what if someone is a bad parent (refering to the other very hot thread lol). We're all not perfect, and in being imperfect, it means we're all bad, in varying degrees.

 

I always tell my wife, "I'm a very bad man. So what."

 

Her reply is always, "I like bad men" LOL

[Thargor]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:07 AM, Galantspeedz said:

interesting.... her hate for your mum is more than the love for you.....

she doesnt hate my mum...just prefer not to stay with her.

[Joseph22]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:10 AM, RadX said:

eh you veri popular today har....basket....can form gay boy club ah....now to get Krado to praise you

 

 

you mean those who praise me today are all gays?

 

actually how come we got no scare emocon huh??

[Dj_spike]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:01 AM, Thargor said:

quite impossible to intermediate...i kinda do what I can already. Nowadays just fetch my mum over for dinner/lunch...she gets to play with baby...afterwhich I send her back.

 

I am just thinking...my kid deserve a happy family...my wife rather get a divorce than to stay with my mum...and i need to do whats best for my kid.

 

Hard choices to make, and those are choices one need to make and make peace with from within.

 

How u treat ur parents will be a sure indication of how ur kid will treat u in the future.... is this what u want?

 

I have a cousin who chased out his parents staying with him juz because his wife wanted to study for her masters and needed to rent out the room....

Ur wife has clearly indicated by choosing divorce she do not need u as much as u need her... :angry:

[RadX]

  On 7/30/2010 at 5:11 AM, Thargor said:

she doesnt hate my mum...just prefer not to stay with her.

 

 

that seems to be just the tip.....there may be deeper issues?