Mother in law vs Daughter in law

[Albeniz]

相见好，同住难.

[Ladykillerz]

There is this old time question.

If both your mother and wife drowning, who will you save first? =p

 

Smart guy will not answer this. =P

[Genie47]

one mountain cannot have two tigress......

 

women are by nature jealous people, they cannot get along with another female, unless its her own mother.....

 

You sure about this. Most women when married can't get along even with their own mother!

[Genie47]

OK on the contrary, as a husband or rather lets use a more universal term, a spouse, you have to take sides.

 

You have to take the side of your spouse. ALWAYS.

 

Remember those marriage vows? They are made with trust in mind. Trust that you will not abandon or forsake your spouse.

 

Firstly we have to draw some boundaries. Namely what is betrayal and what is called abandonment.

 

Lets go with the easy one first. Abandonment. To abandon someone is to not stand with the person with your obligations. In the case of marriage it is support and defense. An attack on your spouse is an attack on you afterall. Why people abandon their spouses. It is usually selfish desire. Fear of MIL or own mother is the case.

 

At the same time, you standing with your spouse is not a case of abandoning your own mother or MIL. The relationship you have to work on is with your spouse. Not your own mother. The relationship with your mother is one formed by birth and nothing else. You are not married to your own mother. Chances are, your daily life is revolving around your spouse. Your spouse is helping you run house, bring in the bacon, etc. Your mother doesn't do that for you. The most she does is maybe wash your laundry.

 

So there you have it. Piss your own spouse off and you are asking for more trouble than pissing your own mother off.

 

Betrayal? That's easy. It is to start a relationship with deceit in mind. If you married your spouse with deceit, you are a very sick person indeed.

 

Then of course all this can get complicated when your spouse intends to abandon their own mother but lets leave it to another day.

[Dfx16]

My wife can get along with my mum and her mum no issue

I cant get along with her mum instead as her mum nag so much that i only turn my face off recently after 5 yrs

 

Incident report (Anyhow this is only 1 incident i wanna mention, too many to type if i would bring all online) :

 

I always bring her mum out for lunch or dinner

Her mum always complaint here not nice there not nice etc

 

There's a day when i bought durian and drive all the way up to her place knowing she liked durian too

Without even tasting it she say "bu hao qi de"

I'm fine with her comment and i went home

 

The very next day i bring her out for porridge somewhere at outram park

Upon walking toward the coffeeshop she raised her voice and say why go there "bu hao qi de"

 

At that point i sudden blew up enough is enough

I raised my voice and said if u think its not nice u are fine to go elsewhere to have your lunch by yourself

I'm going to have my lunch with my family (wife and son) without u

At the end she lan lan follow along

 

For this my wife didnt take side as she knew i had put up with her mum nonsense for ages liao

Edited February 18, 2010 by Dfx16

[1l0v3you]

My wife can get along with my mum and her mum no issue

I cant get along with her mum instead as her mum nag so much that i only turn my face off recently after 5 yrs

 

Incident report (Anyhow this is only 1 incident i wanna mention, too many to type if i would bring all online):

 

I always bring her mum out for lunch or dinner

Her mum always complaint here not nice there not nice etc

 

There's a day when i bought durian and drive all the way up to her place knowing she liked durian too

Without even tasting it she say "bu hao qi de"

I'm fine with her comment and i went home

 

The very next day i bring her out for porridge somewhere at outram park

Upon walking toward the coffeeshop she raised her voice and say why go there "bu hao qi de"

 

At that point i sudden blew up enough is enough

I raised my voice and said if u think its not nice u are fine to go elsewhere to have your lunch by yourself

I'm going to have my lunch with my family (wife and son) without u

At the end she lan lan follow along

 

For this my wife didnt take side as she knew i had put up with her mum nonsense for ages liao

lol i was the same as her when i was 6 years old.

[Axela72]

how come is alway MIL issue? why we dont or seldom heard FIL with SIL or DIL issue?

 

My mom called me 'listen to wife mouth' while my wife called me "mummy son." So end of the day, what have I become?

[Jman888]

let them fight lor .... 不打不相识 !!

[Porche]

lucky i don;t have this problem, cos i'm not a swimmer

[RadX]

Confident this is not @Jamesc

 

confirm!!

 

https://www.facebook.com/share/gaL6CYJJgbqjuqLp/?mibextid=WC7FNe

[Jamesc]

On 2/18/2010 at 11:58 PM, Porche said:

lucky i don;t have this problem, cos i'm not a swimmer

You were the fastest swimmer at one time.

[Jamesc]

How else do people think they got from the sac to the egg?

[Beehive3783]

On 9/17/2024 at 12:13 PM, RadX said:

Confident this is not @Jamesc

 

confirm!!

 

https://www.facebook.com/share/gaL6CYJJgbqjuqLp/?mibextid=WC7FNe

and i was wondering who pumped a 14 year old thread....

[mersaylee]

On 9/17/2024 at 2:00 PM, Beehive3783 said:

and i was wondering who pumped a 14 year old thread....

I tink he applied leave to bring his mil go jiak hong...cowpeh about too much wind and rain...😁

[Beehive3783]

On 9/17/2024 at 2:35 PM, mersaylee said:

I tink he applied leave to bring his mil go jiak hong...cowpeh about too much wind and rain...😁

Is it the one where the boss refused to approve his parental care leave application?