Are you a weekend parent?

[Roh96]

Just wonder how many of you here are weekend parents? I think is getting common nowadays, 3 of my neighbours are all weekend parents. They will leave the kids with ah gong and ah ma on weekdays and only bring them home on Sat and Sun. 1 of the neighbour is lagi best, all the 7 days leave to grandparents to take care, only bring him home on Sat and Sunday afternoon and by evening send the kid back to grandparents. Last saturday i met one ah gong with his few months old granddaughter at the clinic. He complain to me about how lazy his son and daughter-in-law, the baby girl was unwell for 3 days already and yet the parents still can't be bother like that and wait until sat then bring to doc. As uusual when i ask the parents why don't bring your child back, they will say tired and they need to cope with work stress blah blah. I couldn't understand, if raising a kid is so tiring or if career is so important, then why give birth? If they are not willing to sacrifice the sleep, why want to have kid? And they can have the heart to sacrifice the old folks sleep instead. What has the world become?

 

 

[Lab4games]

couple of reasons.

 

working these days really hectic and stressful. if OT, there's no time to take care of the kid

 

sometimes it's the grandparents that want to have a grandchild..not necessary the parents themselves want

 

ahgong ahma is their day cum night childcare provider.

 

 

[Throttle2]

weekend parent for 2 yrs.

but visit almost every day.

 

 

[Clemenzo]

Weekend parents but visit daily after work.

[Yeshe]

i have my MIL to take care of my kid in the day. during the night he will be spending time with us and sleeping at our own home. I think thats the healthier choice.

[Karoon]

weekend parents, explain yourselves!

 

i really don't understand why... don't you find nothing wrong not spending the night with your kids when they are minutes away? are they an inconvenience? don't your parents deserve their peace and quiet in their old age?

[Hiphiphoray]

My kids are one of few fortunate ones that gets to stay overnite at home everyday with 2 FT working parents.

 

Its a god damn tiring option with huge sacrifices involve. But its worth the hard work seeing a happy family under the same roof together everyday.

 

So far, i have not encounter anybody able to subtain this arrangement.............and we did it without grandparents help too. hehehe.

Edited November 2, 2009 by Hiphiphoray

[Tonyhawk]

i see my kids daily, or at least try to.

 

one of them stays out 7 days a week. with both sets of grandparents vying for his attention, I have no chance nor priority.

 

forgot to mention i live minutes from either set of grandparents. and yah, they are more than happy to have the grandkid over, in fact, i feel abit left out. haha.

Edited November 2, 2009 by Tonyhawk

[Tjkbeluga]

All I can say is the person that sleeps together with the children is the one that will have the strongest bond with the child. My son sleeps with my mum every night whereas my daughter sleeps with my wife. Then will tend to prefer to sleep with the same person no matter what.

[Roh96]

I can't think of any good reason why they can't bring their kids home everyday. Only 1 word can decribe them 'Lazy'. Besides all the couples i have seen own a car at least. What is the problem of bring the child back and let the poor old folks have their deserved good rest at night. Moreover some parents even have high blood pressure and yet still need to take care of baby at night. Poor thing man. Slog entire life for children and now still need to slog further for grandchildren.

[Carndablues]

whereas my daughter sleeps with my wife.

 

You don't sleep with your wife?

[Tjkbeluga]

It's not lazy. It's about setting priority. Diff family sets different priority....

[Tjkbeluga]

You don't sleep with your wife?

Same room but not same bed...

[Roh96]

It's not lazy. It's about setting priority. Diff family sets different priority....

 

 

What priority? Priority of having good sleep at night over a disturbed sleep?

[Albeniz]

Side-trek abit...

 

New show about stay-at-home dad screening soon.

Penguin Father (literal translation).

[Roh96]

If the weekend parent arrangement is due to odd hours of working time i can understand. If couple work time is like 9-5pm type then no excuse lor.

[Mustank]

my mom stays with me on weekdays and my dad stays with me on weekends.

 

they are not on talking terms so this arrangement is actually great for them

 

maid does all the hard labour. my mom does the teaching and discipline

 

my kids sleep with me and my wife everyday

 

i made a decision to sacrifice my career to spend time with my children and wife

 

gee manz that's why i a pigkarp

 

i know mine isn't exactly fast, so do be paitent with me

[Roh96]

My kids are one of few fortunate ones that gets to stay overnite at home everyday with 2 FT working parents.

 

Its a god damn tiring option with huge sacrifices involve. But its worth the hard work seeing a happy family under the same roof together everyday.

 

So far, i have not encounter anybody able to subtain this arrangement.............and we did it without grandparents help too. hehehe.

 

 

Yah the word tired is an understatement. Like u, my case also 2 FT working parents coping with 2 kids everynight. Although my parents did offer to ask me leave our kids with them at night but we rejected. She deserve her good sleep too after a long tiring day. Need to 'zi dong' abit lah.