Table Manner at home

[Kelpie]

Hi all,

 

I wonder who still pay respect to their senior and parents by saying " Father eat, mother eat, big brother eat, elder sister eat and etc" when eating together?

 

I was pleasantly amused when I was invited over for a family dinner with a wealthy businessman at his house. The father machiam big boss in the company and everyone must pay their due respects before moving the chopsticks. They even have to acknowledge my presence and say "Uncle XYZ eat". These are adults not some young children. Well done .

 

Regards,

 

 

[GoodCar]

This are traditional value to be conciously preserved.

[Thargor]

Hehe actually i thought thats the norm cos we still greet our elders during a meal (dad eat, mum eat...etc) and by we...i mean 30++ yrs old adults.

 

Frankly I find that the younger generations seldom practice this anymore....

[Shull]

Hi all,

 

I wonder who still pay respect to their senior and parents by saying " Father eat, mother eat, big brother eat, elder sister eat and etc" when eating together?

 

I was pleasantly amused when I was invited over for a family dinner with a wealthy businessman at his house. The father machiam big boss in the company and everyone must pay their due respects before moving the chopsticks. They even have to acknowledge my presence and say "Uncle XYZ eat". These are adults not some young children. Well done .

 

Regards,

 

my family still practice this..especially to elder generation..among same generation, didn't really do it anymore unless the age diff is significant(eg >4-5yrs older)

[GoodCar]

Then we must conciously teach them and make this become a habit to them.

Respect must be taught at a young age regardles of race, language or religion.

 

 

South East Asia Chinese was lucky that we have avoided the madness of cultural revolution.

Many of the good traditional value are still here, we must all do our part to contiously preserve them.

 

忠孝仁爱礼义廉耻.

[Blackforte]

in my family,we still do that.

anyway,do you know if this is a chinese tradition or only certain dialect groups practise this?

and which dialect groups has the most rules and regulations and dos/donts?

[Silver_blade]

We don't do that in the family, but we do make sure rules eg. no elbow on table, drinking soup without slurping, etc...

[Blackforte]

礼义廉耻.

 

is this li yi lian chi?tell me

 

[GoodCar]

I think is li bah

[Mr_b20]

Hi all,

 

I wonder who still pay respect to their senior and parents by saying " Father eat, mother eat, big brother eat, elder sister eat and etc" when eating together?

 

I was pleasantly amused when I was invited over for a family dinner with a wealthy businessman at his house. The father machiam big boss in the company and everyone must pay their due respects before moving the chopsticks. They even have to acknowledge my presence and say "Uncle XYZ eat". These are adults not some young children. Well done .

 

Regards,

 

u already said he is a wealthy father, of cos everyone respect

 

[Blackforte]

I think is li bah

 

 

li bah?

[Kelfinity]

Actually, no offense but I find it superfluous.

[GoodCar]

Li 礼

[Kallangrally]

 

I was trained from young to address every "elders" to eat before eating, but until teenage time, start to realize some of the "elders" are either stuck up or can't be bother with u...so now I still practise but only selected few whom I respected...the rest of them can go and eat shxt....

[Blackforte]

Li 礼

 

 

i know the first word is li.

i want to know if the other words are yi,lian,chi?

cos it looks like my pri school motto.

haha sorry ah my 2nd language is quite limited.

[GoodCar]

Actually, no offense but I find it superfluous.

 

 

Human being are not perfect, that is why we must always have dreams and aspiration.

 

For example, the Government(commie) in China say that to reach the epi of communism, they have to first walk the capitalist route.

and recently , we know that our pledge was an aspiration.

 

In modern management, may be you can call this stretch target or objective.

We know we are not perfect but we will try our best to reach it so that the world can be better or more harmonious.

 

But you are right that there will always be some group that over do it and make it look superfluous regardless of race, language or religion.

 

At the end of the day, it is how individual "digest" and "action" these words of wisdom.

It will be worse off in the beginning if we don't even have these aspiration and dream right.

Some has said that 89 was cause by the dream that was broken when the people are allow to see the outside world.

 

Just my 2 cents worth, I have my weakness too

[Adrianli]

Hi all,

 

I wonder who still pay respect to their senior and parents by saying " Father eat, mother eat, big brother eat, elder sister eat and etc" when eating together?

 

I was pleasantly amused when I was invited over for a family dinner with a wealthy businessman at his house. The father machiam big boss in the company and everyone must pay their due respects before moving the chopsticks. They even have to acknowledge my presence and say "Uncle XYZ eat". These are adults not some young children. Well done .

 

Regards,

 

In the 90s, my family do practise this but now its mostly buffet style eating so not sitting on the same table already so no such practise. But I do practise this when I am at my-in-laws place. My-in-laws never practise such things and the mother always tell me no need to greet them to eat.

 

It is a good practise. Anyway, my family is peranakan. My-in-laws are Cantonese.

[GoodCar]

i know the first word is li.

i want to know if the other words are yi,lian,chi?

cos it looks like my pri school motto.

haha sorry ah my 2nd language is quite limited.

 

 

 

Yes brother they are