What do you do when your partner is acting all crazy

[Carndablues]

Keep it up!!

 

Not much of an issue, was with her for 6 years before that, so we know each other quite well.

[Subutai]

Keep quiet and stay calm.

 

For me, will try to spot and change topics within what she is talking bout....

 

Wife: You always like that, the previous time you went out with XYZ friend and you all bla bla bla

Me: You know something happen to XYZ friend, he has got this problem with bla bla bla

Wife: Oh... then what happened to him bla bla

Me: Not quiet sure but he bla bla bla

etc

etc

 

After a while of evasive actions, wife maybe offload anger liao and of course, in between off topics, I apologize or make her see why i did what I did or why i disagree with her (for good or for bad, depending on situations).

[Metalbone]

what if your partner bite when she very angry?

Edited May 8, 2009 by Metalbone

[Kezg1]

You got it easy. My wife wants me to buy her a Lambo or stay out of her way so she can buy herself one. And she said if she bought it, I ain't drivin' it. But jokingly of course. My wife is very independent, aggressive, intelligent but very very bossy. She shouts and scolds a lot, over the littlest things.

 

Most of the time she makes me feel stupid even though I'm her equal in most aspects.

 

 

henpacked or respect is not much a different meaning to me ...in your case

[Rayleigh]

Just a little survey.

 

 

Haha....good poll....Lastly you just need to say that last siok phrase "Dear, I'm sorry and I love you". Irregardless of who is in the wrong,all things will be solved.

[Dj_spike]

This thread is getting darn interesting... all the marital problems are out of the closet....

 

C'mon guys... let out ur sorrows... u'll feel better

[Skylander]

ok i guess its all about understanding your wife and knowing her and then decide the course of action.

different people different character. You knew whats she like and you knew how to approach the situation.

 

 

[Unfazed]

Mine hit me in my balls a few times. She stopped after I experienced pain for weeks. Since then nothing oredi. But she's still quite physical. How siah.

Looks like both of you are financially sound so y take that torture from her till now. Unless you cant live w/o her then that's another matter. If you r not too old, there will still be chances you meet someonw better in your old grp.

[Unfazed]

it is true that women are mostly emotional and temperamental, while men are sober and cool. thats why some men suffer in silence and end up having extra-marital affairs, because they dont feel the tenderness anymore. actually, it is only natural that men take up the leader role and women the supporter and submissive role, but this seems to be reversing. recently i read a science research article , it says that if civilisation is to continue for another 5000 years, male will become extinct.

Be careful when u cite the cause of extra marital affairs here, there will be females here who will challenge u. My stand to both wife & hubby, what u "do" outside, juz dun get caught. Outsiders can only empathise but cannot agree with the actions. If get caught, be man or woman enuf to admit.

[Unfazed]

I feel sorry for you, and all the other guys out there who have a shitty marriage.

 

I love my wife, I love my life and she's a huge part of my life, for better or worse.

 

She's not perfect, we get into arguments, but I wait for her to cool down before we talk it out.

 

And it's imperative that you talk it out, do not let an argument settle unresolved.

 

Talk through the problems and you will soon see that not all issues are to be taken at face value.

 

Some issues are hard to resolve, like, how do you kick your own mother out of your house, the answer is that "you can't". so you as the man, will have to make choices to make life easier for both parties. If it means keeping one as far away from the other, then so be it. It could be different meal times, two TVs, whatever, you, as the man must make it work.

 

Do not be a coward and hide behind your mummy's skirt, you made the choice to marry your wife, so you must also take responsibility for her happiness if you made her move into your house.

 

A happy wife has a happy husband, that's the truth!

 

Dun have to feel sorry for me. I m fine and happy on clud 9 as long as my tail is not step on. I can endure most nonsense but dun carry it too far. When I strike, I really strike with no mercy. When me & wife got into a past scuffle when we juz got married, she kept provoking me by pushing me on my shoulder inviting a fight, what I did was push her away at the right spot and down she goes. So afr things got on fine after that, no worries.

 

There was once she threatened to jump (got grill how she jump?), I pulled her down with all my might and gave her a good lecture telling her if she wanna jump, she can jolly well go back to her parent side and jump infornt of them, afterall they are the ones who gave her a life. I was disgusted over the fact that all woman in her family has history of threatening to jump, sad to say my spouse targeted the wrong person, if wanna jump, just do it, dun have to inform me. In the evening so told me her arms got bruises and how she gonna go work next day, I told her to confess to her colleagues y she got the bruises. Instead of asking me the bruises, she has to thank me on top of that, after that she kept mum. So for all of you guys here, if you come across ppl who tells you they r going to jump a mutliple of times, these r ppl that's only saying for fun, sure there maybe something wrong with them but they defintiely dun fall into the potential airborne grp.

 

Good for you that ur wife cansort things out with you. Keeping far away from ea other under one roof? easier said than done, the 2 parties are suffering also so where is that happy family. It seems that hubby has to jaga over everyhting bcos he choose to marry wife so her happiness is your business. I beg to differ, my keyword is compromise, understanding etc.

 

A happy wife has a happy hubby or the other way round? To me it does not really matter.

Edited May 8, 2009 by Unfazed

[Drive_carcar]

Be careful when u cite the cause of extra marital affairs here, there will be females here who will challenge u. My stand to both wife & hubby, what u "do" outside, juz dun get caught. Outsiders can only empathise but cannot agree with the actions. If get caught, be man or woman enuf to admit.

Totally agreed!

 

For me I only stray emotionally, but not actually commit adultery. Yes I know it's bad and wrong. But I do and feel guilty about it but I just can't help it. But I can fully sympathise with anybody (males or females) who actually committed adultery. Yes there is something wrong with their marriage somewhere. And sometimes people just don't want to do anything about it, as status quo is still the best and only option. So a fling here and there, to me is normal.

[Anniewan99]

Sounds like tyrant! Do you respect your wife as a person? Do you still love her? If not, set her free. If you don

[Anniewan99]

You mean fantasize That is perfectly normal, but I didn't advocate it is a right thing to do.

 

However it is wrong to committed adultery. Having a partner that throw tantrum or whatever you are dissatisfied about doesn't justify the other half valid reason for that, if they don't see the fault in themself. I also tend to pity these type of people for they pay so little respect to themself and their family, yet think so highly of themself.

 

[Unfazed]

Sounds like tyrant! Do you respect your wife as a person? Do you still love her? If not, set her free. If you don

Edited May 8, 2009 by Unfazed

[MLS]

 

Chill there. Give and take ya

[Unfazed]

You mean fantasize That is perfectly normal, but I didn't advocate it is a right thing to do.

 

However it is wrong to committed adultery. Having a partner that throw tantrum or whatever you are dissatisfied about doesn't justify the other half valid reason for that, if they don't see the fault in themself. I also tend to pity these type of people for they pay so little respect to themself and their family, yet think so highly of themself.

To a spouse, be it emotional or physical betrayal, it is the same I think.

[Unfazed]

 

Chill there. Give and take ya

No worries! Some women will definaitely not like the way I express myself. But who cares, I m like that.

[Blue-winter]

brother , it seem that you had a bad time har....

 

Easy har....