What do you do when your partner is acting all crazy

[Nutsack]

Just a little survey.

[Drive_carcar]

When my wife is all crazy, it's normal.

 

When she is normal.... something is not right.

[Vextan]

actually all women's tantrum can be solved easily, just bring her go shopping and buy whatever she wants. guaranteed.

[Watwheels]

Under the "kill yourself" these ppl won't be alive anymore to vote but surprisingly got 2 votes!

[Leeshunda100]

choice 2 anytime...I am a man how can let woman scream at me for nothing.Being a man got pride unless i did something wrong which angry her like tao cha...then i choice the last 1

[Parkingidiot]

why only have choice to kill yourself? Why no choice to kill her? I think if given a choice to kill yourself or kill her... wouldn't killng her make a more sensible option?

[Lv3338]

whip her..............

[Boi2uncle]

most of the time, the womenfolk are just in a bad mood. they get grumpy and unreasonable and no matter what we say or do, they continue to seem 'buay song'. actually they are not targeting us or unhappy with us. if we can learn not to get affected and let the dark cloud pass den bo dai ji liao.. i vote (1)

[Refugee]

just keep quiet and do your own things is the best solution....

 

dun bother to understand whats happening unless you're willing to provide her "THE SOLUTION" she wants to hear.

 

[Hub_n_mona]

say sorry? stone-walling is harmful in the long run

I wish there is a 100% solution but there isn't..

so guys, just say sorry and hump

[Unfazed]

most of the time, the womenfolk are just in a bad mood. they get grumpy and unreasonable and no matter what we say or do, they continue to seem 'buay song'. actually they are not targeting us or unhappy with us. if we can learn not to get affected and let the dark cloud pass den bo dai ji liao.. i vote (1)

I agree with 1st vote but a spouse should not stay quiet even when the episode is finaly over.

 

There was once my wife had pms and she behave as if whole world owe her a living. Like u did, I tried to ignore her but she lagi more yaya. Small mistakes I did she called me stupid and in that day, she did it twice. I endure the whole day not speaking to her. At the end of the day, this was what I told her.

 

"1st of all, whatever mistakes I did do not warrant u to call me stupid. It does not make u any wiser to call me stupid bcos you are even more stupid to marry a stupid person like me. But since knowing that I am stupid, I can give u the option to make urself wiser by divorcing me. This is your only chance to make urself wiser, grab it."

 

That evening she apologise hrs later crying, I told her that I can understand as much as I can but dun take a standing order that I gotto take whatever nonsense she can give, I dun have a womb so it is not my problem, you got a problem, you tried and solve it at your level first. I told her to wake up her idea.

[Drive_carcar]

Right now there's only one thing that will make my wife happy, evict my mother from my home.

 

And that.... is the hardest thing of all to do. So everyday I come back from home have to live with my wife's madness.

[Boi2uncle]

I agree with 1st vote but a spouse should not stay quiet even when the episode is finaly over.

 

There was once my wife had pms and she behave as if whole world owe her a living. Like u did, I tried to ignore her but she lagi more yaya. Small mistakes I did she called me stupid and in that day, she did it twice. I endure the whole day not speaking to her. At the end of the day, this was what I told her.

 

"1st of all, whatever mistakes I did do not warrant u to call me stupid. It does not make u any wiser to call me stupid bcos you are even more stupid to marry a stupid person like me. But since knowing that I am stupid, I can give u the option to make urself wiser by divorcing me. This is your only chance to make urself wiser, grab it."

 

That evening she apologise hrs later crying, I told her that I can understand as much as I can but dun take a standing order that I gotto take whatever nonsense she can give, I dun have a womb so it is not my problem, you got a problem, you tried and solve it at your level first. I told her to wake up her idea.

 

wah.. bro.. u are fierce

[Hub_n_mona]

Right now there's only one thing that will make my wife happy, evict my mother from my home.

 

And that.... is the hardest thing of all to do. So everyday I come back from home have to live with my wife's madness.

that means, there's no solution..always hardest to be caught in-between

 

perhaps create some scenario for them to join hands

 

[Tzehou]

I agree with 1st vote but a spouse should not stay quiet even when the episode is finaly over.

 

There was once my wife had pms and she behave as if whole world owe her a living. Like u did, I tried to ignore her but she lagi more yaya. Small mistakes I did she called me stupid and in that day, she did it twice. I endure the whole day not speaking to her. At the end of the day, this was what I told her.

 

"1st of all, whatever mistakes I did do not warrant u to call me stupid. It does not make u any wiser to call me stupid bcos you are even more stupid to marry a stupid person like me. But since knowing that I am stupid, I can give u the option to make urself wiser by divorcing me. This is your only chance to make urself wiser, grab it."

 

That evening she apologise hrs later crying, I told her that I can understand as much as I can but dun take a standing order that I gotto take whatever nonsense she can give, I dun have a womb so it is not my problem, you got a problem, you tried and solve it at your level first. I told her to wake up her idea.

 

Wa sey... power...

[Zniper]

apparently 1 or 3...

[Unfazed]

Right now there's only one thing that will make my wife happy, evict my mother from my home.

 

And that.... is the hardest thing of all to do. So everyday I come back from home have to live with my wife's madness.

Plan for separation when your kids are old enuf. I m not spoiling anything here. I have a mindset that I dunno what will happen tomorrow in a marriage so live to your fullest, I dun believe it is a must to have "for good" or "till old", if spouse is screwed up, they deserved to be lonely with no one at their wake. This will happen to my dad and I make sure I will live to see this.

[Quirky_ster]

Something to on a seminar that I attended recently...

 

 

In making comparison between a man and a woman. I cut the long story short and take the cheese of it...

 

It was mentioned that...

 

For men,

To Talk they use left side brain only

For Emotion, they use right side brain only.

In between the left and right side brain there's a small bridging channels above the Amigdala that will allow the man to swap it's thoughts from talking to emotion... this goes on and on during arguments/talking/discussions/arguments.... that's why man cannot tolerate "nagging" and emotion and expected to talk at the same time.. it's way too stressful and very tiring for them..

 

For Women,

To Talk they are blessed to use left side AND right side of the brain.

For Emotion, they are again blessed to use the left side AND the right side of the brain.

In between the left and right side brain the bridging channels above the Amigdala are much bigger compared to men in which it allows them to swap it's thoughts from talking to emotion very quickly and efficiently... and at the same time, the emotion and talking can tag along at the same time.. this goes on and on during arguments/talking/discussions/arguments....

 

Where does this leads to...

 

You will realise woman can talk and get very emotional. The best part, they can swing from one topic to another very quickly and then revert back to earlier topic and then move to another topic and then to the main topic again... and then the emotional swing also move very fast and rapid.. they can cry, angry, naggy all at the same time and then cry again and then nag and then tantrum.. then talk and talk.. and nag nag.. they are ok with it.. coz' they don't get tired.. it's natural to them...

 

See.. they are designed that way... it's a gift! The downside, it takes a longer time to make the decision and arrive at a conclusions.....

 

Whereas man, always able to split emotion from talking and makes them more logical and also makes them looks cold and emotionless at most times.. mainly because we take a longer time to swing from talking to emotion due to the channel and the best part the talking and emotion can be separated.. and this helps us in making quick decision and conclusion... that's why when we conclude or summarize to them on the situations, woman will then realize they are being overly emotional and over reacting and become apologetic...

 

 

 

Hope this helps.. I've to yet to verify this study though.. but it's interesting..

Edited May 8, 2009 by Quirky_ster