Nutsack Clutched March 29, 2009 Share March 29, 2009 I feel sad for these women who are forced into taking such extreme risks with what is the rest of their lives. These women are being horded like their commodities - animals even. Only their appearance, figure and whether they're virgins matter. Their worth as humans is simply narrowed down to doing household chores, cooking and sex. I think little of men who objectify women this way. I doubt they'd be very good husbands. I pray that I'm wrong about most of them ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ngck 3rd Gear March 29, 2009 Share March 29, 2009 I feel sad for these women who are forced into taking such extreme risks with what is the rest of their lives. These women are being horded like their commodities - animals even. Only their appearance, figure and whether they're virgins matter. Their worth as humans is simply narrowed down to doing household chores, cooking and sex. I think little of men who objectify women this way. I doubt they'd be very good husbands. I pray that I'm wrong about most of them some men just cannot find a partner... too shy, no looks, not rich enough (not poor ok), poor social skills it all boils down to one thing for the girls.... "No Money is the Root of All Evil" Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sabian Turbocharged March 29, 2009 Share March 29, 2009 Supply & Demand The local guy probably cannot find someone here and for the girl, her circumstances may be such that she has little to lose in venturing out (from her perspective). Don't like to stereotype but usually the girl has little education and chances are, she's from a province within HCMC. If you consider that those who work in factories earn like USD4 - 10/day and office work probably gets them 10%-20% more, it is quite obvious which they are going to choose. The Singapore man does have a certain amount of cache. (quite different from our SPGs look for). Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Redplanet Clutched March 29, 2009 Share March 29, 2009 I feel sad for these women who are forced into taking such extreme risks with what is the rest of their lives. These women are being horded like their commodities - animals even. Only their appearance, figure and whether they're virgins matter. Their worth as humans is simply narrowed down to doing household chores, cooking and sex. I think little of men who objectify women this way. I doubt they'd be very good husbands. I pray that I'm wrong about most of them Indeed, they are pitiful....But what to do? You ever been to vietnam to see for yourself the conditions they live in? They aren't forced by anyone, just the circumstances. It is really sad. Could it improve the situation by increasing the market price from 10K to maybe double or triple that amount? That could at least ensure that the groom is more financially stable and hopefully more educated/humane in their treatment of their new "property?" My god, do the men need to go for check-ups or not? Perhaps my view is too myopic and my thinking too naive... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drive_carcar Clutched March 30, 2009 Share March 30, 2009 Actually it's all fair and square. For many Sing men, marrying a local girl is just a bad bargain. I know that because I'm married a Sing girl, and have tonnes of regrets. And I have the feeling of regret everytime my wife throws her temper, and threaten to walk out on me. No business can run properly under threat of having the partner walking out on whenever that partnet can't get his / her way. Really wish I bought myself a wife who, if nothing else is way prettier than mine, and probably not likely to walk out on me. For the Viet girls, it's may be the only way out of poverty and improve their lot in life. It's a gamble, so they weigh their options and make the decision to get married abroad to somebody they have never met. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drive_carcar Clutched March 30, 2009 Share March 30, 2009 Indeed, they are pitiful....But what to do? You ever been to vietnam to see for yourself the conditions they live in? They aren't forced by anyone, just the circumstances. It is really sad. Could it improve the situation by increasing the market price from 10K to maybe double or triple that amount? That could at least ensure that the groom is more financially stable and hopefully more educated/humane in their treatment of their new "property?" My god, do the men need to go for check-ups or not? Perhaps my view is too myopic and my thinking too naive... I think the opposite, reduce the price. Increasing the price only eats into the resources of the groom, which would not be healthy. Further, if the groom were really rich, it's not too likely that he would resort to buying a wife from overseas. There'll be tonnes of tai-tai wannabes queuing up at his doorstep. There are other ways to insure the groom is at least financially stable like doing a backgroun reference check, health check etc..... Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leeshunda100 Neutral Newbie March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 Actually it's all fair and square. For many Sing men, marrying a local girl is just a bad bargain. I know that because I'm married a Sing girl, and have tonnes of regrets. And I have the feeling of regret everytime my wife throws her temper, and threaten to walk out on me. No business can run properly under threat of having the partner walking out on whenever that partnet can't get his / her way. Really wish I bought myself a wife who, if nothing else is way prettier than mine, and probably not likely to walk out on me. For the Viet girls, it's may be the only way out of poverty and improve their lot in life. It's a gamble, so they weigh their options and make the decision to get married abroad to somebody they have never met. Calm down bro...Another thread not long ago u also said the same thing about ur relationship. u better talk to her 1 to 1...just advice only Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mage Clutched March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 Actually it's all fair and square. For many Sing men, marrying a local girl is just a bad bargain. I know that because I'm married a Sing girl, and have tonnes of regrets. And I have the feeling of regret everytime my wife throws her temper, and threaten to walk out on me. No business can run properly under threat of having the partner walking out on whenever that partnet can't get his / her way. Really wish I bought myself a wife who, if nothing else is way prettier than mine, and probably not likely to walk out on me. For the Viet girls, it's may be the only way out of poverty and improve their lot in life. It's a gamble, so they weigh their options and make the decision to get married abroad to somebody they have never met. throw temper & threaten to walk out on you?... and all you have is regret and wish u bought a wife? hmmm Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sosaria Twincharged March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 (edited) Actually it's all fair and square. For many Sing men, marrying a local girl is just a bad bargain. I know that because I'm married a Sing girl, and have tonnes of regrets. And I have the feeling of regret everytime my wife throws her temper, and threaten to walk out on me. No business can run properly under threat of having the partner walking out on whenever that partnet can't get his / her way. Really wish I bought myself a wife who, if nothing else is way prettier than mine, and probably not likely to walk out on me. For the Viet girls, it's may be the only way out of poverty and improve their lot in life. It's a gamble, so they weigh their options and make the decision to get married abroad to somebody they have never met. Wah, how long have u been married? Thought of getting some marriage counselling? No comment on you, bro, but sometimes we all need to examine ourselves to see what is provoking that reaction from the wifey. And yes, some sacrifices are definitely needed to make marriage work. As for foreigners, all i can say is that they may appear docile at first, but after that, who knows? Coming from a diff country and culture, their value system and mentality is diff from ours (well, which may be a good thing, as you say). Edited March 31, 2009 by Sosaria Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boyboy 1st Gear March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 true, less likely that a viet gal will do the same to you, because she cannot afford to. ultimately, it's at least partly dependent on how much each party has to lose. the sg gal usually has nothing to lose by walking out. but i suggest u go for marriage counselling. failing which, a divorce might make life better for everyone. but u need to try counselling FIRST. just my 2c Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Watwheels Supersonic March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 I find that it's ok since both party are happy with what they are expecting. Most Vietnam brides are country girls mostly from farms. Their city girls are not as good, actually they are similar to sg girls, tend to be more material cos of the city's working environment. Obviously the country girls have a different culture, mainly poor living conditions, and different work environment. So Viet girls are seeking for a better life and Sg men are looking for a homemaker. It's a perfect match. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fcw75 Hypersonic March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 I have noticed you have been complaining abt your wife in a few other threads too bro. Are you suffering a lot in this marriage? Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetabout777 1st Gear March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 Actually it's all fair and square. For many Sing men, marrying a local girl is just a bad bargain. I know that because I'm married a Sing girl, and have tonnes of regrets. And I have the feeling of regret everytime my wife throws her temper, and threaten to walk out on me. No business can run properly under threat of having the partner walking out on whenever that partnet can't get his / her way. Really wish I bought myself a wife who, if nothing else is way prettier than mine, and probably not likely to walk out on me. For the Viet girls, it's may be the only way out of poverty and improve their lot in life. It's a gamble, so they weigh their options and make the decision to get married abroad to somebody they have never met. This is not something nice to hear from someone who is already in a marriage. However, I do understand your kind of situation. Sometimes it is not all about having no looks, money, or social skills that men resort to mail order brides, but rather compatibility issues between local men and local women. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Four4s 1st Gear March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 Don't see anything wrong with it... Unless they are forced into it against their will (e.g. forced prostitution). They want a better life, whatever it takes.... I would say that it's more likely the case of them "objectifying" the man.... i.e. they just see a $ sign. who are we to judge the men who want to mail order their partner or the women involved? In some ways it's similar to some sg women who marry local/foreign for money only. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wt_know Supersonic March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 (edited) watch the youtube video. the agent commented, they are young (18), pretty, nice figure and most importantly they are VIRGIN. vietnam cert bo pake, we give you sg cert. no virgin -> 100% refund. hmm, sounds like "selling" to me. anyway, i do agree that it is a willing-sell willing-buy TRADE. the vietnam girl wants $$ and out of vietnam, and the buyer wants a VIRGIN for $10K whether he will treat her as a spouse or sex slave that is out of the mail order brides business consideration. Don't see anything wrong with it... Unless they are forced into it against their will (e.g. forced prostitution). They want a better life, whatever it takes.... I would say that it's more likely the case of them "objectifying" the man.... i.e. they just see a $ sign. who are we to judge the men who want to mail order their partner or the women involved? In some ways it's similar to some sg women who marry local/foreign for money only. Edited March 31, 2009 by Wt_know Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rainman 1st Gear March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 I know of someone who just married a vietnamese, he's late 40+, senior engineer with master degree, typical good guy who dun socialise.... The vietnamese wife is a super SYT, early 20s... natural blushed face somemore....when me and my wife went to his place for visiting, she even serve us food and drinks, the gesture is just like the virtue wife in the olden days. The main thing I'm trying to say is if u cant find a wife in singapore, y not explore further? lol Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rickster 5th Gear March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 Don't see anything wrong with it... Unless they are forced into it against their will (e.g. forced prostitution). They want a better life, whatever it takes.... I would say that it's more likely the case of them "objectifying" the man.... i.e. they just see a $ sign. who are we to judge the men who want to mail order their partner or the women involved? In some ways it's similar to some sg women who marry local/foreign for money only. Actually these viet brides alot of them comes from the rural areas and thus, have the mentality that is similar to our grandparents/great grandparents time. Females are brought up with the objective of getting married to bear babies. Whoever they marry do not matter as long as the man provides for them well. Alot of SG men also likes to have a wife with traditional values like: - Sex - Cooking cum housework - Bear children - Submissive So, having a viet wife will satisfy the SG men and vice versa. Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strife Neutral Newbie March 31, 2009 Share March 31, 2009 viet brides sounds great! Now we just have to get rid of the overheads which is the agent. ↡ Advertisement Link to post Share on other sites More sharing options...
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