Complaint against myself

[Sdf5725]

next time, try to control your emotion. count yourself lucky. accident only happen during that split second when both parties cant control themselves. If it really happened, then this is no point to feel guilty afterward.

[Hensony]

Firstly, don't assume when driving. Better be 100% sure. Or simply wait it out.

 

Secondly, maybe he was going too fast to brake in time.

 

If he didn't swerve to the road shoulder, he would have knocked into your car.

 

 

 

 

Anyway if everyone was moving at a slow speed, and you changed lane close to the car in front of the Civic, how could he have overtook u ?

 

 

Hmm.... I hope you are the only one who misread my post. The Honda was behind me, at the point of lane changing.

 

As to why he swerved onto the road shoulder, I can only surmise the sole purpose was to overtake me. Well, I could be wrong, though I'm pretty sure that was the case.

 

 

[Hensony]

pple form long queue, you choose to cut queue still dare to show middle finger..

dunno what to say about pple like u..

 

Maybe I wasn't clear in my account. The queue had already formed when I was approaching it. The only way I could join the last car would be if I exited from Balestier, which was not where I started my journey.

 

 

[Yuan]

This evening, on my homeward journey, traffic along CTE (SLE) was rather heavy but still moving. As I was approaching the exit to PIE (Changi Airport), a long line of vehicles had already formed. Thus, I had no choice but to cut in. I decelerated and signalled my intention to join the queue. I saw a gap between two vehicles, slightly more than a car's length. Assuming that the car behind would allow me to do so, because if I were in his situation, I would definitely give way, I proceeded to join the queue in front of this Honda Civic. Guess what. This driver accelerated, swerved onto the road shoulder and overtook me. Given the tight space between lane 4 and the road shoulder, his vehicle was too close for my comfort while he was trying to overtake my puny Picanto. Out of frustration, and partly because I was pissed that he gave me a fright by his stunt, I blared my horn and displayed my middle finger (yes, I know, I shouldn't have done it). He retaliated by tapping his brake, which caused me to slam my brake in turn. Luckily, the car behind me, driven by a middle-age lady, I think, was quite a distance from my rear. I shuddered to think if she had not.

 

Looking back at the incident, I was disappointed at myself for being so puerile. I am way past the age of a hot-blooded young man (hint: I no longer have to go for reservist) and yet I displayed such uncouth behaviour. With nearly ten years of driving experience (because, I obtained my licence late), I have already encountered several kinds of fxxk-up drivers. By comparison, this Honda joker is considered mild. Also, my reaction (blaring the horn and flipping the bird) was totally uncalled for; they would only antagonise the other party.

 

With more introspection, I guess I should thank this Honda driver for showing me something that I found out about myself today. One, I really have to work on my temper. All along, I have this mistaken notion that I had done a good job keeping it in check. Guess, there's more to be done. Two, I should really kick this bad habit of hitting the horn whenever I'm frustrated. Three, as for my middle finger, I should keep it wrapped around the steering wheel when I'm driving.

 

Hmm.... I'm feeling much better, now that I have verbally unloaded my feelings.

 

For those who took the time to read, thank you.

 

That's all, folks. Have a nice weekend!

 

 

for your reflective attitude and willingness to change for the better.

 

It is over and water under the bridge. Just make sure next time if you encounter similar situations, try not to do anything foolish. It would not change the subject matter of the then circumstances, ie middle finger or whatever. Easier said than done. Sometimes emotions try to get the better of us. For me, I would always think of my car, my family, the other party and all the inconvenience caused if anything harmful happens to me or the other party. Most of the time it is good to turn the other side of the cheek and keep cool. Or you can put it as being gracious and not stoop so low to such kind of people. After all, you respect yourself as a human being but you won't be too sure about the other party behaving such manner as according respect to himself or herself.

[Thestig]

You should try and make more money. Once you reach a level of income that is very very comfortable to the point where you wouldn't care about the retaliatory effects of such drivers, your driving attitude will improve and you will waive such things off. If you think that you are already rich but you are still acting in such a way, then you are still not comfortable within your own skin, its a signal to make even more money.

[Pcslim]

We should have more of these posts like TS.

 

Very often we hear about complaints about other road users but rarely do we hear any self-reflection on mistakes we made ourselves.

[DarkLord]

Recently, I noticed alot of people talking to themselves...

Edited March 30, 2009 by DarkLord

[Zenithpool]

but had notice the increase of driving speeding up to close the gap the moment they saw u signal. Some even can horn u , even thou there is a comfortable speed in between.

 

Also, had notice more and more driving would turn out from a queue lane (e.g. cars queue up to turn or exit), speed up and try to do a hard cut in back into the queue.

 

Very unfair to those in the queue.....

[Metblue]

I understand for this situation, you were unable to form up at the queue because you had already past the end of the queue when you realized it, but we must also understand that for the Honda Civic driver, he would not know it and would presume that you were a queue cutter.

 

I would gladly give way when motorists change lanes in front of me, even without signal (provided that there is sufficient space) during normal driving, but I would try my very best not to let someone cut in when I am forming up in the queue, as queue cutters are one of the kinds I loathe most. Hence although I feel that the Honda Civic driver's actions was too much, I can understand his frustrations.

[Seaweed]

good to be able to realise one's own mistake ....not alot can do that...wrong still think they are right...

[Leggt]

Juz a bad day at the office for both of you, let it pass. Time to do some reflection myself.....

[Little_prince]

as least you know when you made a mistake... alot of ppl dun have that hindsight.. it's a big plus already =)

[Little_prince]

as least you know when you made a mistake... alot of ppl dun have that hindsight.. it's a big plus already =)

[Jackson598]

unleash the bengness in you! its gd

[Ng_kok_seng]

Anyway ! No one is perfect !!

Show middle finger is no good... right?

If people do not want to give way to you, let it be, why should you get angry when they dun?

wait for the next one, I am sure there is definately someone who will kind enough to give way to you.

Remember, smile and wave your hand to signal thank you.

Isn't it the good ending?

[Kelpie]

This evening, on my homeward journey, traffic along CTE (SLE) was rather heavy but still moving. As I was approaching the exit to PIE (Changi Airport), a long line of vehicles had already formed. Thus, I had no choice but to cut in. I decelerated and signalled my intention to join the queue. I saw a gap between two vehicles, slightly more than a car's length. Assuming that the car behind would allow me to do so, because if I were in his situation, I would definitely give way, I proceeded to join the queue in front of this Honda Civic. Guess what. This driver accelerated, swerved onto the road shoulder and overtook me. Given the tight space between lane 4 and the road shoulder, his vehicle was too close for my comfort while he was trying to overtake my puny Picanto. Out of frustration, and partly because I was pissed that he gave me a fright by his stunt, I blared my horn and displayed my middle finger (yes, I know, I shouldn't have done it). He retaliated by tapping his brake, which caused me to slam my brake in turn. Luckily, the car behind me, driven by a middle-age lady, I think, was quite a distance from my rear. I shuddered to think if she had not.

 

I've learnt all this while that never expect other cars to give way to you. Something that my driving instructor has taught me and I still remembered it. Once you have this perception and mentality, you probably won't take this matter too hard . If you can't squeeze in, just give up and try the next one.

 

Frankly, I've never once used middle finger for years of driving no matter how frustrated I might be. I used to blast my horn and high beam. Now I don't even do that, sian and numb already .

 

Regards,

[Aheart]

Recently, I noticed alot of people talking to themselves...

 

Haha, seems like i'll be talking to myself soon because of this financial crisis

 

[Bigg]

no one is perfect. hope u feel better now. :)