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Being a Mother or Having a Mother

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Owen_fan

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Beautiful article. Since this was sent to me and Mother's Day is just round the corner, I want to wish all mothers a Happy Mother's Day and Single Friends to treasure your Mother more :)

 

 

BEING A MOTHER

 

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.

She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would Love to spend some time with you.'

 

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

 

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. 'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

 

'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded 'just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and then said,

'I would like that very much.'

 

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear about our meeting.'

 

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

 

After we sat down, I had to read the menu.

Her eyes could only read large print. Half-way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

 

'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I responded. During the dinner , we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed.

 

'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

 

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.

 

'I love you, son'

 

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I love YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till some 'other' time.

 

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, 'normal' is history.

 

Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first... somebody doesn't have two or more children.

 

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery....somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten... or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'

 

Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets married... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

 

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home... somebody never had grandchildren.

 

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her... somebody isn't a mother.

 

Pass this along to all the GREAT 'mothers' in your life and to everyone who ever had a mother.

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David

David

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In one of my contemplative mood last week, I remembered my ma was telling me even when I was selecting the HDB unit some 20 years ago. She had asked me not to select a unit too big, partly due to I just started work not too long ago and also she would not be staying with me and my wife.

 

Then shortly after I almost confirmed that I am going to stay with my then-gf(now wife), my ma brought this issue up again. Been the elder son and the last one to get married, I could not possibly do that. Why did she say that she would not be staying with me and my wife?

 

Her reason is - like the mountain cannot have two tigers and woman(with long tress) tend to spark, she wants harmony in my family. She would rather stay by herself and would be happy if we visit her as often as we can.

 

Of course, I did not allowed her to do that.

 

It was then that I got enlightenment. It would be the penultimate for a mother and a daughter-in-law to have a harmonious relationship whilst staying under the same roof. For the daughter-in-law would be a mother some days later and if she does have a son, then she would have a daugther-in-law. Then the daugther-in-law can say to be a truly daughter of her mother, she must have got good education from her parent and sibblings.

 

Too chim?

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Gearoil

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What would happen if your wifey make that suggestion...but her intention turned out that the fella really 'took another woman' out for dinner instead of his mother? [sly][laugh][laugh][laugh]

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Smurfy76

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Aww.. so touching... [bigcry][bigcry]

 

remind me of the dinner I had with my mum alone juz 2week ago.

 

We dine in the hawker centre near our old bedok flats...

 

my super thrifty mum order so much food that can fill 4 person,

 

and we sat there chatting for hours as if we in some nice atmosphere cafe..

 

hmm... must do that more often..I LOVE MY MUM [inlove]

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Weez911

Weez911

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Sorry for resurrecting this thread.

Saw a beautiful sight last night during dinner at Pastaria Abate near Katong. A young mother, who has her baby strapped to her torso in a baby carrier, came to collect her Grabfood orders from the restaurant around 8pm. Then she left in her PMD presumably to deliver those food. All this while with her baby strapped to her torso.

That, to me, is a mother's love.

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Ash2017

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8 minutes ago, Weez911 said:

Sorry for resurrecting this thread.

Saw a beautiful sight last night during dinner at Pastaria Abate near Katong. A young mother, who has her baby strapped to her torso in a baby carrier, came to collect her Grabfood orders from the restaurant around 8pm. Then she left in her PMD presumably to deliver those food. All this while with her baby strapped to her torso.

That, to me, is a mother's love.

i learn to respect rather than admire or envy

 

its all about survival for many

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Kusje

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4 minutes ago, Jman888 said:

strap a baby and ride on PMD? [sweatdrop]

What's her alternative? 

1. Leave baby alone at home

2. Don't work?

3. Walk?

4. Ride bicycle?

No money for food, why worry about safety?

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